Director of Insights at
@YMCAWorkWell
& YMCA of Three Rivers | PhD in Org. Behaviour from
@Laurier
| Grateful dad | High-fiving husband | Research cowboy
Spring cleaning means a little website refresh! 🌷🌷
If you're ever looking to learn more about what I do at
@YMCAWorkWell
or what my data consulting looks like, check out or reach out any time.
I'm always looking to help people use data in better ways.
It's been over two years since the Open Mic episode of
@SchittsCreek
where
@olreid
sings Simply the Best to
@danjlevy
, but I still think about it often.
Maybe the most intimate and touching moment I've ever seen on TV. Still miss it, but what a legacy to leave behind.
A big question for anyone who has given birth:
What is one thing that your partner did, said or brought to the hospital that really helped you through your birth experience? Expecting dad hoping to support his wife in the best ways possible here ready to take notes. 🗒️
To clear something up:
No one likes wearing a mask. Every single person you see out in public wishes they weren’t wearing one. But we do it because we would rather prioritize the well-being of others and our community over comfort.
Things you only see during the
#WorldCup
: A crowd of Mexicans parading the one single Korean around on their shoulders because Korea's win against Germany put Mexico through to the next round. It may just be a game, but it sure does bring people together in touching ways.
I’ve been wearing a mask in public for almost two years now. I’d like the record to show: I do not like wearing one and I do not want to wear one.
But I will gladly accept the minor inconvenience of wearing one for another two years if it means protecting vulnerable people.
As a new dad of a new daughter, I often hear comments like:
"Boys better stay away from her!"
"You're going to have to be tough on the boys she brings home!"
"The boys won't be able to stay away from those eyes!"
Can we please stop. She is seven months old. Why is this a thing?
To all parents:
As someone who does not have kids, I just want to say I'm sorry. I'm sorry these past 17 months have brought so many additional challenges for you and I'm sorry that they still aren't going away with September right around the corner.
You all deserve better.
I was diagnosed as a diabetic during Christmas exams in Grade 12. Based on some quick and dirty math, I have taken approximately 26,833 needles since that day.
I’m happy to say that this might be the only needle I’ve ever enjoyed.
@BuxomDiva
Thank you - I have, and often! But we have never been in this situation before and she has never given birth, so we're taking shots in the dark at what would work best for her. We don't know what we don't know. So why not stand on the shoulders of giants?
I do this “caring husband” thing where I fill my wife’s water bottle and bring it to her for dinner and before bed.
Not only did I forget to do it tonight and last night, but I just learned that she hasn’t had any water because of it. I am literally keeping this woman alive.
I've collected data on employee well-being for 5+ years. One clear, unshakeable trend is that when employees are asked what they need to be healthier at work, the top needs aren't things like yoga/meditation.
They are recognition, communication and feeling valued. Every time.
World: Meet Joelle Whiteside. She took a while to get here, but our little Joey was born April 6th after some real heroics by one hell of a mom. The world’s next combative midfielder, astronaut extraordinaire, and big difference maker.
Joey: Meet the world ❤️
We are over 13 months into this pandemic and yet as far as I can tell, not a single one of us has learned how to end a Zoom call in a way that isn't awkward.
Today I’m grateful for: Finally tying the knot!
After rescheduling our wedding far too many times, we’re finally having a little intimate ceremony in 2 weeks at the cottage. But given the year we’ve had… we thought we’d take a private day just for us to make it official. ❤️
I want to show my clear solidarity on something.
Every woman I know loves dresses with pockets. I don’t understand why, but apparently they are incredible. And yet they are rare enough that they are so coveted.
This is absurd. The world clearly needs more dresses with pockets.
@renkate
I really love this one. As a couple that has sometimes felt gaslighted by professionals after two miscarriages in 2022, this one feels like a big one.
Do you want to prioritize your health this lockdown?
Get outside. Throw on your warm clothes and take advantage of every sunny winter day we get. Fresh air kept so many of us going in the summer, but it's even more important in the winter and we do it so much less.
Get outside.
After one hell of a year, we’re adding one more neutral cardigan to the fam.
I’ve been pretty honest here about our experiences and our two miscarriages. I am a firm believer that people need to discuss these experiences far more.
So here’s where I am emotionally today…
What if, and hear me out...
What if we took the energy that we put into "teaching women how to be assertive in salary negotiations" and re-direct that energy into "teaching organizations how to pay women what they deserve"?
My wife and I experienced our first miscarriage yesterday.
This is a long and very intimate thread on why I think it’s important for me to openly and publicly admit that.
🧵🧵🧵
Dear teachers and educators:
I know it doesn't make up for all of the uncertainty right now, but thank you for everything you do. Truly.
We are rooting for you.
If you are a living person, please like this tweet.
I just walked my dog and did not see a single person or a single car driving and I'm concerned that I've woken up in 2021 to a 28 Days Later situation here.
Tonight, on our one year anniversary, we started a new tradition.
Every anniversary, for the rest of our lives, we are going to recreate this picture from our wedding day, no matter where we are. I can’t wait to look back in 50 years and see how our lives have grown. ❤️
There's this tragic misunderstanding that people with "underlying health conditions" are invisible people you never see.
In reality, it's your colleague at work. It's your barista. It's your grocer. It's your kid's coach. It's your kid's friend. It's your neighbour. It's your...
Anyone who says "yea, but they had underlying health conditions" to justify a child or anyone dying from COVID is significantly underestimating the massive number of people in our society with underlying health conditions.
Signed,
A diabetic with an underlying health condition
To everyone struggling today about Leanne, I think the best way to honour her legacy is by asking how we can all be more like her.
She was so special because she treated every person she met with dignity, support and compassion. Let her be the light inspiring you to be better.
Another notch on our house hunt belt:
We were feeling discouraged, so we stepped back a bit. Came across a home that we loved - offered 100k over asking, more than we wanted to spend, but we felt we had to. 15 offers later, the home went 225k over.
This market is demoralizing.
1⃣ Just because someone carries it well, doesn't mean that it's not heavy.
2⃣ Just because someone struggles to carry it, doesn't mean that they're not strong.
We're all carrying some sort of baggage. Put kindness and empathy first.
#WorldMentalHealthDay
My wife and I have always wanted a little free library.
My wife and I just moved into a new house.
Our new house has a little free library.
We just watched a mom and her daughter pick a book.
And my heart grew 92 sizes. ♥️♥️
Make 2022 the year you stop eating lunch at your desk and stop booking lunch-time meetings with your team.
It might sound inconsequential, but lunch is an important time to step away and recharge before tackling your afternoon. It should be treated far more sacredly than it is.
Confession:
I’ve spent my career telling people that therapy is a valuable tool that’s just as valuable when things are good as when they are bad. Yet, I had never seen a therapist myself.
That wasn’t good enough.
So today I finally changed that. Here’s to walking the walk.
Still pinching myself over this. Having my research featured in
@HarvardBiz
has been a lifetime bucket list item of mine and today, I can tick that off the list.
89% of people in a recent survey said their workplace well-being has declined since the pandemic started — and increased job demands were cited the most often.
What is one of the most worrying employee well-being trends right now?
I'd say the fact that the people that are usually considered those hyper-reliable top performers are burning out too. They usually prop their teams up when times are tough, but now they're depleted too.
The older I get, the more it hurts when I hear people say "I don't care about politics".
I do get it. But so much of your personal well-being and your community's well-being comes down to the outcomes of local, provincial, and federal elections.
Please take some time to care.
One more time for those in the back.
Education is a fundamental component of a high-functioning society.
Health care is a fundamental component of a high-functioning society.
Dollar beers are not.
Tailgate parties are not.
How did Ontario get our priorities so wrong?
#OntEd
We spend billions on downstream solutions to help employees manage their stress and not nearly enough on upstream solutions to reduce the actual sources of the stress itself.
If we genuinely want to move the needle on employee well-being, we need to start looking upstream.
I have a PhD in Organizational Behaviour and HR and this is my
#1
evidence-based tip for hiring top talent:
At their first interview, put on your favourite Motown song as they walk in. If they don't dance a little, say goodbye. You don't need that negativity in your company.
The future of work isn't in the office.
But the future of work isn't remote either.
The future of work is flexibility.
The future of work is choice.
The future of work is having the autonomy to do your work how, where, and when it works best for your own unique needs.
It's been 6 months since
@plasticity
changed our hours to 9-3. Some takeaways so far:
1. I am able to make it to the gym every day with no stress and that has made me 100% healthier.
2. I don't feel like my performance has suffered. If anything, my well-being has boosted it.
Sometimes the best wellness strategies just require a bit of trust. We've recently started working 9-3 at
@plasticity
, with the intention that those extra 2 hours be devoted to your well-being.
I've never been more effective at work. Take a big leap. It just might pay dividends.
Food for thought:
Just because someone carries something well does not mean that it’s not heavy.
Even the most resilient people deserve support, recognition and compassion.
Today was supposed to be our wedding.
I feel guilty about missing out on a day that was supposed to be just about us in a world where so much is happening that’s far bigger than us.
But we’re finding ways to celebrate and appreciate each other just the same. Mostly with donuts.
Why is it important to be kind?
Research suggests that it takes 3-5 positive events to beat out a negative event of similar magnitude. That means that on any given day, we need 5x more positive moments to come out on top.
Numerically, we're up against it. Inject that kindness.
In the past two weeks, my wife and I have:
▫️ Had our second miscarriage of 2022
▫️ Both had surgery and I am on crutches
▫️ Lost out on a(nother) home we wanted
It's been a rollercoaster. But I'm grateful to be going through all of this with an absolute superstar like my wife.
Well, it’s official! After our unreal community came through with 6,115 posts of gratitude in eight hours, we officially have the biggest gratitude wall in the world. Thanks to our amazing community and partners, we couldn’t have done it without you!
@GWR
@plasticity
#gratitudewr
One wildly unfair thing I've noticed after 9 months of being a parent:
A mom needs to be consistently 10/10 to be recognized by others as a "great mom". A dad needs to be 5/10 every now and then to be recognized by others as a "great dad".
And, that is absolutely bullshit.
We need to shake this outdated idea that working more hours always generates more output.
Performance is relative and not all hours are created equal. Working 6 hours at 90% produces more work than 9 hours at 55%, and I guarantee you it's better work too.
Put well-being first.
The outpouring of support when
#NotreDame
caught fire was beautiful.
But now, the
#AmazonRainforest
, which provides 20% of the world's oxygen, has been burning for three weeks due to human activity and climate change and I've barely seen a thing.
Our Earth needs our help.
My wife has been away for the past week - the longest we’ve been apart since she moved here in 2018.
So I’m going to pick her up at midnight at the airport tonight in a suit with some flowers because she deserves it, I missed her, and the little things are the best part of love.
Important life-tip:
If you have benefits at work, study what you have and use them. See a therapist. Submit your gym membership. See a nutritionist. See a physiotherapist.
These are resources just sitting there for you to use. But they are only useful if you actually use them.
We just got our family pics back and let me just say, if you ever want some family pictures for the wall... Contact Hilary at
@oneforthewall
.
She is an absolute all-star.
I think it's time to retire "You look tired" from our collective vocabulary.
Not one person, not a single person in human history has ever thought "Oh? I was unaware, thank you for telling me" after being told "You look tired".
We know. We all know.
I've been thinking a lot about getting married last week and I keep getting floored thinking about the journey we had to take to get to where we are now and there's one clear theme:
For all of you hyper-rational over-thinkers out there, just freaking go for it.
A huge thread.
Exactly one year ago, my wife and I had our first miscarriage, followed by a second three months later.
Now one year later, we’re five weeks out from our due date. A lot has changed, but it still impacts us every day.
For anyone suffering right now: We’re thinking of you. ❤️
Approximate time it takes to say meaningful & impactful phrases:
"Thank you" - 1.5 seconds
"You're doing great work" - 2.5 seconds
"How are you doing?" - 2 seconds
"I believe in you" - 2 seconds
There isn't a person on Earth who doesn't have the time to be kind.
Take the time.
A reminder to everyone as Ontario goes back to managing working from home, managing children's learning at home, and lockdown this month:
"We've already been through this" is not a valid excuse. Your employees and colleagues need as much empathy and grace now as they did then.
In the past couple weeks, our daughter has grown out of her colic and it feels like she’s grown from the cutest baby ever who cries all the time, to just straight up the cutest baby ever, and I feel like I have to shout it from the mountaintops consistently.
I have to say such a big thank you to everyone who has responded so far. When I made this tweet, I was definitely not expecting 1,400+ comments and for this to literally become newsworthy. The support has meant a lot and I've added SO many notes ♥️
My 8-month pregnant wife just asked “If you had to guess, how much weight do you think I’ve gained?” and I am so confident this is a trap that I just pretended to be asleep.
After blowing past our due date last Monday, my wife and I start the induction process tomorrow.
I’ll take some time to devote to my new family, but the next time you hear from me, I’ll be a new dad, incredibly proud of my wife, and madly in love with a new little girl. ❤️
This week, my fiancée and I made the decision to officially postpone our June wedding.
It sucks, and
#COVID19
is the pits, but if being quarantined together for a month has taught us anything, it’s that we’ve clearly found our person. And can anyone really ask for anything more?
I think every academic article should come with a mandatory, accessible, and plain language summary of the findings, why the results are important, and why they matter.
Because if research isn't accessible, what's the point?
Repeat after me: It often takes more bravery to leave something than it does to stick with it.
Our culture has this idea that persistence is noble, and it can be, but persisting through something that is chronically detrimental to your well-being is not noble, it is toxic.
Wearing a mask is uncomfortable, 100%.
But let’s be clear: You are not being oppressed or giving up your freedoms by wearing one. You are taking on a very minor inconvenience so our entire society can return to normal.
Please wear one now so we don’t still have to in a year.
There is this myth that being kind is easy. It's not.
Being consistently and reliably kind is hard as hell - it requires effort, it requires time, and it requires energy, but...
The effort is worth it.
The time is worth it.
The energy is worth it.
Kindness is worth it. Be kind.
There's a clear distinction between "using a tragedy" and "responding to a tragedy".
I stand firmly with the 80% of Canadians who agree that there is no person who needs an AR-15, and that Canada deserves better than this rhetoric.
As a Nova Scotian, I am outraged that Justin Trudeau is using our tragedy to punish law-abiding firearms owners across Canada.
As Prime Minister, I can guarantee to all Canadians that I will never take advantage of a tragedy like this to push a political agenda.
It’s hard not to feel let down by the parties on the left in this election. This felt like it should have been the easiest of elections to win. And yet, here we are.
#OntarioElection2022
In the midst of so many awful things happening right now, I completely lost track of the fact that it is currently 5:25 and it is not dark out yet.
And I will take any little win I can right now.
If you somehow still don't believe that racism is rife in this country, I challenge you to just go into a Facebook group for your city and read the comments.
You don't have to dig deep to find it in plain sight. We won't ever advance by pretending it's just a few bad apples.
I am tired, I am feeling pretty run-down, and I think a lot of people are in the same boat with me.
I am also a firm believer in a good pick-me-up. To everyone who reads this: respond to this tweet with the absolute best animal picture you can find.
And go.
Pre-COVID:
A "team player" often meant those who worked themselves into the ground for their team.
Post-COVID:
I hope we finally realize that a "team player" is actually someone who models a positive and healthy work life and gives others the grace and support to find the same.
It’s not often that I say this, but I’m so proud of people in their 40s right now.
My entire timeline is full of so many awesome Gen Xers doing the right thing and getting vaccinated and I am absolutely loving it.
I am considering starting a
@YouTube
channel where I do unboxings of my partner's
@Sephora
packages and try to explain what each product is and what it does.
There are so many reasons why COVID has been hard. Three rescheduled weddings are just 3 of those reasons.
But today, I��d like to thank COVID for making us change course away from the wedding we’d planned and towards the most magical and meaningful wedding we could’ve hoped for.
Here's your reminder that we are 19 months into a global pandemic and many of your colleagues on your team and throughout your organization this week will be understandably struggling with something.
This week is a great time to start from a place of empathy instead of judgment.
Tonight, we read a book to our daughter together as a family for the first time.
We started with Someday. It is an absolute wrecking ball of a book and this was the aftermath.
Here’s to more heartfelt tears to come. ❤️
So excited to finally share that
@TheSmileCEO
and I have joined
@YMCAsofCandKW
!
We're building new services within the Y to improve workplace well-being in our community through strong data and people-first consulting.
So
#grateful
to do important work with a fantastic team!
Left, right, very left, very right, centrist, independent, regardless of where you stand.
We should all be embarrassed at a 38% voter turnout.
#ElectionsOntario
I earned a PhD after 21 straight years in school.
I am the Director of Research at
@plasticity
and I literally research for a living.
And yet, alas, I still order that shawarma poutine despite the mountains of evidence to suggest I shouldn’t.
We’re all painfully human.
I'm a researcher. I ask questions for a living.
I've now been a dad for five weeks, but in the weeks leading up to the due date, I asked a LOT of questions about what to expect.
For any expecting parents, here are some things I didn't hear despite all of my questions.
🧵🧵🧵
My parents bought their three-bedroom, 2200 sqft home in 1996. Finished basement, corner lot, high ceilings, two-car garage. For $330,000.
Today in KW, that would buy me a lovely, outdated one-bedroom apartment.
I wonder how much income levels have increased in that time...
On
@metromorning
, Minister of Education
@LisaThompsonMPP
claimed that increasing class sizes will give students more challenges and an opportunity to build their resilience and coping skills.
As someone who builds frameworks for student resilience for a living, this is total BS.
I’m taking the weekend off Twitter for the best reason possible:
A long overdue wedding ceremony at the end of this dock with 16 of our closest friends and family. It’s going to be special and I want to give it my full attention.
See you all on Wednesday! 🤵🏻♂️