@dankuntz
It's changed post covid a bit but if you are queer it's not that (but it sucks in other ways). But I've heard this a lot from straight folks. It's a weird scene here so not at all trying to be dismissive.
@dankuntz
been to 30 countries and SF is the place I got the most dates in the least amount of effort
although the difference is that you got to use a cal scheduler there for dates 'cause ppl are so busy