also this conversation between her and tara is willow saying that she thought she had romantic feelings for oz but then she met tara and realized what romantic attraction actually feels like
willow is a good example of lesbians that struggle with comphet or compulsory heterosexuality, i think that she didn’t actually like oz romantically, she just liked that he liked her and was mistaking that for romantic attraction
also it’s very common for lesbians to date men before realizing they are lesbians so the argument of “willow is bi because she dated a man” isn’t a very good argument