@ShandersWrites i tell people on the fence to stay away 🙈 unfortunately my stupid composition really pulled me towards it (kidding i obv love being a parent but think it’s rad and also sensible to just not)

@krysmalcolmbelc Agreed, I think anyone who’s not excited about it should opt allllllll the way out! Personally I was so dogged about it that even the horror stories didn’t turn me off, but I know some people would make a different choice if they had more info going in

@ShandersWrites Yeah it really shocks me that people are so shocked by it.

@janechuffman Seems disingenuous! Or like a bit!

@ShandersWrites I have 3 kids and i absolutely love and adore them. But I 100% understand why people are choosing to not have kids.

@feralmommabear I don’t think there’s anything even remotely confusing about it and I think there’s so much disingenuousness in all the handwringing

@ShandersWrites This. Agree.

@ShandersWrites Amen! It's not hard to understand. Mad respect and love to anyone who chooses not to have kids ❤️

@ShandersWrites I was chatting with my cousin about something similar this weekend. We both love our kids but often wonder why people without kids feel like they are missing out lol. We sometimes hear that from our single friends who travel often, and have a lives that appear very luxurious.

@ShandersWrites Yeah like that’s the thing, all my friends who have kids really wanted them/have gone through really tough fertility journeys and I empathize but can’t even begin to imagine wanting to be a parent that much & the utter contrast really makes it clear I’m not built that way at all!

@ShandersWrites My children are adults; being a parent is, by far, the best thing in my life. Also a thing? How anguished I sometimes feel to have brought them into a world where mass shootings, terrorism, esp. the bombing of the OK City federal building, and climate destruction occur.

@ShandersWrites You've said it.

@ShandersWrites I love my kid and I’m glad I had kids with my awesome spouse. BUT: “Sure, I’ll give up my life of spontaneity and freedoms for years of IDGAF attitude from a kid who I love dearly” isn’t exactly a flex.

@ShandersWrites Craft cocktails > Kids for those unfortunate souls.

@ShandersWrites Same!!

@ShandersWrites It's weird how people suppose these two thoughts are mutually exclusive.

@ShandersWrites Same. My husband and I have also definitely had conversations where we are like man. Imagine what it would be like if we never had kids. And that doesn't mean we wish we didn't have them. But like we understand the advantages to not doing it.

@ShandersWrites Truly the weirdest and most damaging thing to evangelize. Every kiddo deserves to come into the world to people ready to parent them wholeheartedly, not because someone convinced them it would "bring them so much meaning" or some vague reason.

@ShandersWrites One of my coworkers has two young adult daughters and whenever we talk about kids in any capacity she always tells me DON’T. HAVE. KIDS. 😂😂😂 She loves her daughters but isn’t going to pretend it’s all sunshine and rainbows