When I was diagnosed with
#HIV
24 years ago I doubted I would live to 50.
Today I turn 55.
The drugs that keep me alive also mean I can’t pass HIV on.
HIV changed. Tell everyone.
Keith Haring died of AIDS aged 31 on 16 Feb 1990.
His last piece of art, Unfinished Painting, was deliberately incomplete, reflecting the devastating, unquantifiable loss to the arts due to AIDS.
“Orlando had become a woman… Their change of sex, though it altered their future, did nothing whatever to alter their identity… but in future we must, for convention’s sake, say ‘her’ for ‘his’ and ‘she’ for ‘he’.”
Virginia Woolf having no problems with pronouns in 1928.
A 🧵 on
#AIDS
in the 80s/90s:
I was 15 when I first had sex with a man.
I’d snuck off to London’s Heaven nightclub with the express intent of ridding myself of my ‘gay virginity’, a goal I achieved easily with a visiting American photographer.
1/13
#LGBTplusHM
#UnderTheScope
Today is the anniversary of my HIV diagnosis.
I was 30 and had lost many friends to AIDS.
The doctor told me that with treatment I could expect to live another twenty years.
That was 26 years ago.
HIV changed. Tell everyone.
I knew Justin Fashanu, the first professional footballer to come out as gay (we had a brief thing).
He was hounded by the press and the crowds and took his life at 37.
Seeing Harry Kane wearing a rainbow armband - it matters. 🙏
#Pride
matters.
#Euros2021
Sinead O’Connor played Gay Pride in 1988, alongside Erasure, just a month after Section 28 had been passed.
Pride back then was much more of a protest, lesbians and gays were treated as 2nd class citizens.
Performing at Pride was a sign of allyship, when there were few to be had.
Prince Harry donated $1.5m from the proceeds of Spare to
@Sentebale
, the charity he founded with Prince Seeiso of Lesotho to support young people affected by
#HIV
.
He carries on his mother’s work.
I’ve been living with diagnosed
#HIV
since I was 31.
Without effective treatment I probably wouldn’t have made it into my 40s.
Today I turn 52.
HIV has changed.
Tell everyone.
20 years ago, 2 years after the arrival of combination therapy that effectively treated
#HIV
, the Bay Area Reporter, San Francisco’s LGBT newspaper ran ‘No Obits’ as its headline.
It was the first edition not to report an AIDS death in almost 15 years.
Justin Fashanu was Britain's first openly gay footballer.
He was hounded for it and took his life at 37.
I knew him (we had a brief thing). I recall how hurt he was by his brother John’s inability to accept his sexuality.
Sad to see he hasn’t changed.
When I was diagnosed with
#HIV
25 years ago I doubted I would live to 50.
Today I turn 56.
The drugs that keep me alive also mean I can’t pass HIV on to sexual partners.
HIV changed. Tell everyone.
I was told I had
#HIV
when I was 30.
It was 17 years after the first reports of AIDS, millions had died, including many friends.
23 years later my HIV is under control.
At 53 I feel healthy.
#UequalsU
means I can’t pass HIV to sexual partners.
HIV has changed. Tell everyone.
Just as we fought for greater acceptance of LGBT people, we now must fight to end HIV stigma if we are to end this epidemic.
I can think of no better way of honouring those who died.
🙏
#LGBTplusHM
#UnderTheScope
🧵 Ends.
An HIV diagnosis is no longer a death sentence.
We need to share the good news that treatment will prevent AIDS.
We must challenge fear by ensuring that everyone knows effective treatment means we can’t pass HIV on to our sexual partners (
#UequalsU
).
12/13
It was AIDS that killed those men, but it was homophobia that allowed it to happen – and that led to so many men dying alone.
Homophobia killed us then.
Worldwide, it remains the cause of thousands of deaths, through violence and neglect, even today.
11/13
Justin Fashanu would have turned 61 today.
Justin was Britain's first and still the only high profile openly gay male footballer. He was beautiful and talented.
I knew him (we had a brief thing).
He was hounded by the press and the crowds and took his life at 37.
#LGBTHM22
Postscript
In 1996 effective treatment was introduced that prevented HIV from progressing to AIDS.
I was diagnosed with HIV in 1998.
I was 30.
At the time I did not expect to live to 50.
I will be 57 this year.
#MakeStigmaHistory
I think of David who took his own life rather than face lingering death, and I think of Derek, who loved beauty but lost his sight.
I think of Ian, always the smartest but kindest man in the room, and of Paul with his huge blue eyes and even bigger heart.
9/13
And then my friends started dying.
Death and grief were bound up in my experience of being young and gay.
And it didn’t even feel odd – a community dealing with fear and loss was the only one I knew.
7/13
There were trans women at Stonewall.
There were trans women at the first Pride rally in London.
There were trans women marching with me on Section 28 protests in the 1980s.
Our communities’ histories are intertwined.
We are stronger united.
Celebrate all
#LGBTQ
+.
#LGBTplusHM
I still picture those I lost: wise, twinkly Mick, a member of the Gay Liberation Front and the first person I knew with HIV; Roy, who denied his illness beyond the time when all of his friends knew; handsome James – and his legendary parties.
8/13
Later that week, I watched with rising panic the Horizon documentary, Killer in the Village.
It warned of a new disease that was killing gay Americans. A few cases had just been identified in the UK too.
At that time, the disease did not have a name.
We now know it as AIDS.
2/13
Fear, hatred and intolerance of homosexuality, attitudes which were then widely shared across all regions and social classes, combined with a virus to kill people like me and people like my friends.
10/13
My love life at the time was complicated and messy, often fuelled by alcohol and poor judgement.
I considered myself to be safe – I almost always used condoms but there were slips and breakages and mornings where I woke up with only hazy memories of the night before.
6/13
On this day, 23 years ago:
Two years after the arrival of effective
#HIV
treatment, the Bay Area Reporter, San Francisco’s
#LGBT
newspaper, ran ‘No Obits’ as its front page headline.
It was the first edition not to report an
#AIDS
death in almost 15 years.
At the same time Section 28, inserted into the Local Government Act in an attempt to ban “the promotion of homosexuality”, started making its way through Parliament.
4/13
Yesterday the Daily Mail gave their front page to the view that children can’t be trans.
Today it feigns compassion over the murder of a young trans girl. 😠
The ‘gay plague’, as the tabloids dubbed it, was all the justification needed for politicians, journalists and religious leaders to condemn our sick and short lives.
AIDS provided a powerful new weapon for those who wished to attack us.
#LGBTplusHM
5/13
The government’s ’Don’t Die of Ignorance’ HIV advertising campaign, featuring icebergs, a tombstone and a doom-laden voiceover, came out a couple of years later when I was in my first year at university.
3/13
Never forget what a bold, courageous act it was for lesbians, gays, bisexuals and trans people to march proudly and defiantly through the streets of a mainly hostile, homophobic London 50 years ago.
We owe these veterans everything.
#PrideInLondon
#WhitePrivilege
doesn’t mean you’ve never faced hardship or challenges. It just means that the hardship or challenges you faced were not related to your skin colour.
@JohnAmaechi
says it better than I ever could.
The first
#PrideInLondon
was held in 1972, led by members of the Gay Liberation Front.
The GLF even then had a 40 strong ‘Transvestite, Transexual, Drag Queen’ group of activists, fighting for recognition and respect.
Gay Pride has always included trans people.
#LGBWithTheT
My father discovered I was gay when he found me in bed with a ‘friend’ who was staying over during the holidays.
At that time 75% of people thought homosexuality was wrong.
I was too young to have sex legally (I was 19).
He closed the door.
We didn’t speak about it.
#FathersDay
If you have the choice between sitting with...
Emma Thompson
Emma Watson
Daniel Radcliffe
Pedro Pascal
Dolly Parton
Miley Cyrus
Graham Norton
Regina King
Julianne Moore
Selena Gomez
Halle Berry
Gloria Steinem
Margaret Atwood
... or sitting elsewhere, you sit with them, right?
1986: Tory calls to examine ‘gay ideology’ in schools amid fears it is ‘harming children’.
2021: Tory calls to examine ‘trans ideology’ in schools amid fears it is ‘harming children’.
When I came out gay in the 1980s the Government were introducing Section 28, a law that declared our relationships as just ‘pretend families’.
Love that this is now ‘family’ weekend viewing.
#Strictly
I’m 53.
When I was diagnosed with HIV, 22 years ago, I didn’t think I’d live to see 50.
Effective HIV treatment means we now have about the same life expectancy as people without HIV.
HIV has changed, tell everyone.
It’s 22 years today since I was diagnosed with
#HIV
.
I was 30.
Without treatment I probably would not have reached my 40s.
I’m well, feel fit and, because I’m undetectable, I know I can’t pass the virus on (
#UequalsU
).
HIV has changed. Tell everyone.
Me (gay man who was arrested for gay rights activism / former CEO of Gay Men Fighting AIDS / notoriously fond of sex with men): “Support
#LGBTQ
rights!”
Random 🤡s in my replies: “Why are you erasing gay men?!”
Wishing a happy birthday to Diane Abbott.
She was the first Black woman to become an MP and is now the longest serving Black MP.
She receives more online hate than any other MP, which she bears with remarkable grace.
She deserves far better.
Re. Queer.
1. If you’re NOT likely to be called it you don’t get to decide whether or not it’s offensive.
2. If you ARE likely to be called it (or have been) you can choose whether to embrace or reject it, but you don’t get to choose for all others who may also get called it.
1991: Princess Diana said you could hug someone with HIV without risk.
This needed to be said.
Now: You can have sex, without condoms, with someone who has HIV and is on treatment, without risk.
This needs to be understood.
#UequalsU
HIV has changed. Tell everyone.
For the last 3 months Layton and Nikita have beamed queer joy into households across the UK.
It’s gay representation I couldn’t have imagined when I was young.
They deserve to win because of their dancing.
They’re winners already!
#Strictly
#StrictlyFinal
Madonna was a visible friend to
#LGBTQ
+ communities before it was fashionable.
She was outspoken about
#HIV
and included safer sex info with her album Like a Prayer.
And she served one of the greatest moments in pop history.
Diane Abbott is trending again.
She was the first Black woman to become an elected MP.
At almost 35 years, she is the longest serving Black member of Parliament.
She receives more online hate than any other MP, which she bears with remarkable grace.
She deserves far better.
It looks like a couple of male tennis players, Fabien Reboul and Max Broville, may have just come out as gay (maybe bi?) via a post on Fabian’s Insta.
In other news… 🔥🔥🔥
I wish this had been on Saturday night TV when I was a kid.
I think every gay man over a certain age does.
Same sex dancing is like same sex marriage: once it’s here, it seems so natural and right it’s hard to imagine why it ever never was.
#Strictly
When we were dying of AIDS, James Anderton described gay men as 'swirling around in a cesspit of their own making.'
He was emblematic of the policing that led many gay men to view the Police as hostile, so crimes against us went unreported.
It's hard to forgive.
Today we pay tribute to retired Chief Constable Sir Cyril James Anderton who has sadly passed away. James served as Chief Constable from 1976 to 1991 during one of the most extensive periods of change in UK policing.
While you’re here...
White privilege doesn’t mean that you’ve never faced hardship or challenges. It just means that the hardship or challenges you faced were not related to your skin colour.
@JohnAmaechi
says it better than I ever could.
‘Trans people are not scary. We are just normal people with hopes and dreams like anyone else.’
Congratulations to newly elected Plymouth councillor
@Dylan4Compton
. 💜
Me at 30 (the year I was diagnosed with
#HIV
).
I didn’t think then that I’d live to be 50.
I was wrong.
HIV has changed. Tell everyone.
PS I don’t care what you say, I think this haircut was awesome.
Madonna’s Like A Prayer album was released in 1989, 35 years ago today.
The patchouli scented LP carried safer sex info.
At a time when homophobia was rife, spurred by fear of AIDS, this was an act of remarkable allyship.
🙏
1991: Princess Diana said you could hug someone with HIV without risk.
This needed to be said.
Now: You can have sex, without condoms, with someone who has HIV and is on treatment, without risk.
This needs to be understood.
#UequalsU
HIV has changed. Tell everyone.
When Princess Diana shook the hand of a man with
#AIDS
she helped to challenge the fear and ignorance that surrounds HIV.
She also showed allyship with gay men, at a time when the UK Government was so hostile it had just introduced new homophobic legislation.
It appears that Graham Norton has been hounded off Twitter following a very famous person accusing him of supporting ‘rape and death threats to those who dare disagree’ with trans rights.
This is all that he said. 💜
Madonna included safer sex information with her 1989 album, Like A Prayer.
AIDS hit hard the gay / arts circle of friends that Madonna made when she first moved to New York. In 1989 there was no effective treatment for HIV (and no PrEP).
She stood with us.
These pills keep my
#HIV
suppressed so it doesn’t endanger my life.
This also means I can’t pass HIV on during sex (we call this
#UequalsU
).
I brought plenty of spare with me this holiday in case COVID meant I had to stay longer.
HIV has changed. Tell everyone.
It’s 21 years today since I was diagnosed with
#HIV
.
Without treatment I probably wouldn’t have survived half that time.
Today I feel fit and, because I’m undetectable, I know I can’t pass the virus on (
#UequalsU
).
HIV has changed. Tell everyone.
In the early 90s Lily Savage, Paul O’Grady’s alter ego, ruled the gay scene.
I would go see her Workers Playtime, Thurs evenings at the RVT.
Often the landlords, Pat and Breda would allow a lock in and Paul would hold court, as sharp and funny out of drag as in.
A huge loss.
Is it just me or does anyone else feel ‘ick’ with the way the Pit Crew are depicted on
#DragRace
?
Nothing wrong with gorgeous men being gorgeous - but maybe acknowledge they are people with thoughts? Allow them to speak and interact rather than just be passive objects of lust? 🤔
When Princess Diana shook the hand of a man with
#AIDS
it made front pages around the world and challenged the stigma that people with
#HIV
all too often face.
When Prince Harry got tested for HIV, demand for tests increased by 400%.
Both used the spotlight of royalty for good.
I’m not trans but the hostile narrative about trans lives mirrors that experienced by me and other gay men in the 1980s.
I struggle to understand those who lived through that era who don’t feel the parallels and the need now to stand with trans people.
#TransRightsAreHumanRights
Trans people took part in the first Pride protest in London in 1972.
The words we use change: from homosexual to gay, from transvestite / transsexual to trans, from ‘gay’ as an umbrella term for all of us to LGBTQ+.
Our history unites us.
🏳️🌈🏳️⚧️
It’s been six years since we lost the beautiful George Michael.
When he was arrested and outed for cottaging his ‘apology video’ featured mirrorballs and urinals… it doesn’t get more iconic than that.
25 years ago today, two years after the arrival of effective
#HIV
treatment, the Bay Area Reporter, San Francisco’s
#LGBT
newspaper ran ‘No Obits’ as its front page headline.
It was the first edition not to report an
#AIDS
death in almost 15 years.
If your concern about
#monkeypox
is that it may spread *beyond* gay and bisexual men, maybe you should ask yourself why you think it’s fine if gay and bi men have Monkeypox?
The test of being an
#LGBTQI
ally isn’t whether you’ll add rainbow colours to your logo for
#Pride
.
The test is: will you stand up for us when we are attacked?
Will you distance yourself from those who demean us?
Will you still be our ally when it’s not convenient?
#IDAHOBIT2023
I first met Justin in a London bar in 1990. He had not yet come out and I knew nothing then about his football career.
I mention we ‘had a thing’ purposefully.
In 2012, John Fashanu claimed his brother was not gay.
#LGBTQ
lives are often erased.
It’s important we own our history.
Last year homophobic attacks increased by 41%.
Transphobic attacks increased even more.
Politicians and media who stoke ‘culture wars’, to distract from their failures or divide their critics, do so at the expense of LGBTQ safety.
My father died 12 years ago.
He loved his family, golf, poetry and alcohol.
I don’t see him in the mirror but I hear him sometimes when I speak.
I miss his formidable zest for life.
And I am grateful that he always told me I was loved.
#FathersDay
Some trans women previously identified as gay.
This doesn’t threaten me.
Some trans men are gay.
I’m fine with this.
As a gay man who lived through Section 28 I recognise prejudice.
We are stronger when we stand together against homophobia and transphobia. 🏳️🌈🏳️⚧️
Some trans women previously identified as gay men.
That doesn’t threaten me.
Some trans men are gay.
I’m good with that.
As a gay man who lived through the 80s, I recognise prejudice.
This only strengthens my resolve to support and stand with trans people.
#LGBWithTheT
Katherine Hepburn used to be Stephen Sondheim’s neighbour.
They did not get on.
She objected to his piano playing and would sometimes crawl over the garden wall to bang on his window, reputedly inspiring the line from Into the Woods, “It’s the witch from next door.”