Personal acct. 27. Writer. Cerebral palsy. I'm a Butch Dyke who wants to be male, resisting medical transition. I don't have pronouns or a gender identity.
From 2020-2022, I had a small following under this username. I tweeted, wrote, and gave interviews about being as close to transsexual as one can get w/o medicalizing. To my regret, I revealed a lot of personal info and burned myself out on trans discourse.
So why return? 1/
A reminder, for those unaware, that Rosemary Kennedy was born with brain damage.
She had a fourth-grade reading level, seizures, and mood swings. She was not incapable of functioning, nor was she as mentally ill as some believe.
At the time in which she lived, accommodations
It’s always “she clearly lied to access hormones and surgery.”
It’s never “the Sandyford didn’t ask enough questions, or have safeguarding measures in place.”
You don’t know Sinéad.
You’ve never heard her cry about how transition “ruined” her.
My friend suffers, because of
I cannot begin to list the falsehoods in this article - there are so many.
This is about someone who persistently lied to obtain gender reassignment surgery— & then regretted it
Clinicians are not mind readers (at least not yet)
@fandaflames
Mary, thank you for speaking. I am one of few people I know who have resisted the constant urge to medicalize; and I have only resisted, in part, because voices like yours give me the strength to keep fighting.
This fight often takes everything out of me.
Please rest.
@ImWatson91
Just keep reassuring yourself that you're doing what you can w/ the resources available to you. That's all you can do.
For what it's worth, as much as those hairs pain you, I only see my strong, beautiful friend in these photos.
You're so much more than your body x
@ImWatson91
@MattWalshBlog
Matt gets nervous when women decide/think for themselves--it's a feature, not a bug :)
I am on the same political "side" as him and, thus, have seen more variations of his schtick than I care to remember. He's not original, just loud. Being a conservative woman attracted to
@ask_aubry
This is a lot of words to say that "biblical" gender roles are the most shallow; the most sexist; and the most dishonoring.
actual, Biblical gender roles as I interpret them do not reduce males or females to their sexual performance.
But I'm damned by these same people, so 🤷♂️
@ImWatson91
Irreversible doesn't mean you're ruined, love. And falling off the wagon is part of recovery.
I think of you whenever I get the urge to do the same. So even when you're fucking up, you're still someone to look up to.❤️
@detransaqua
Prisha, I am continually stunned by how brave you are. You move me to tears frequently (I’m a crier anyway 😅) and I just want you to know how wonderful and valuable your voice is, even if only to an inconsequential Internet stranger.
@ImWatson91
We’re not allowed to die on each other. You promised me, remember?
Some small impact…you’ve no idea the impact you’ve had on just my life, let alone thousands of others.
@ImWatson91
Love, you do enough just by being you.
There’s no replacement for you.
Over my dead body are you leaving before your time.
You may be an atheist, but you really think I didn’t put in many good words for you?
You’re still here and if I have any say, you’ll be around a long time.
@mikuisnot
I got this as well, when I tried affirming therapists. It's not my fault my face looks the way it does. Thank goodness I walked away from gender therapy entirely. All I got was near-rabid insistence to medicalize--the very thing I'd been trying to avoid, and told them so!
@ImWatson91
@CardiffD
You’re not weak. You’re a recovering alcoholic. Big fucking difference.
Expecting sobriety for that long was setting you up for failure.
@TullipR
I don't know it in the same way but yes, I know how maddening it is. To know that year after year you're forced to cope w/ horrible complications and surgeries, and for nothing...it's impossible to explain to people who don't live it. I'm sorry that anyone else knows that pain.
@ImWatson91
You're not a freak either. You went through a lot of deeply traumatic shit and sobriety is forcing you to confront intense pain. Very few people have your exact experience; the pain is unique. I wouldn't judge you if you did but you've worked so hard to stay sober + that matters.
1 week sober from alcohol today!
Not my longest streak, but one of the hardest. I’m proud of myself.
Also I picked the *worst* time to read The Girl on the Train (IYKYK) 😤😅
@ImWatson91
The trans community aren't a real community but if they are, what does it say that we're both gender heretics in their eyes?
That they're bad judges of character, imho.
On the fringes is where the cool kids are. I got your back homie 🫂
@ImWatson91
When people show you who they are, believe them.
You wanted to marry that man; you considered starting a family with him.
If he would treat you this way, you wouldn’t have been treated better as his wife, nor the mother of his children.
You have to take care of yourself, love.
🧵The fear that someone will be "gatekept" from transition by an exploratory therapist is a cake walk compared to a deeper fear:
Grieving.
I'm working w/ an amazing, exploratory therapist and the grief work we're doing around transition is intense. ~
@ImWatson91
I hate "liking" these tweets, but you are eloquent as always.
I have to ask, due to my own experiences w/ scarring: does covering yours make you feel better; have you found anything that does?
Do fuck off.
Your precious TQ+ abandoned both of us once we refused to play the role of happy transitioner anymore.
I won’t speak for her, but the LGB saved what was left of me.
You can have your “community”; we’re healing from what YOU allowed under the guise of inclusion.
@ImWatson91
@FreddyKrugasaur
You have not. There is no LGB community. It’s LGBTQ+ and your bigotry sets you outside of it. The welcome mat has been pulled away from you cowards.
@dyke_in_denial
Absolutely wonderful to hear and see you doing so well!!
Do you mind terribly if I save/download this video?
I have a folder dedicated to dysphoria things that bring me hope. What you said about not being too far gone to return to yourself and grieving on your own time…I am in
@jk_rowling
@preta_6
I saved it to a Word document and reread it regularly; it's not only a much-needed and eloquent piece of writing about gender, but my favorite example of how to write an essay well; as much as I appreciate your voice on these issues, I respect you most as a writer.
@ImWatson91
@ask_aubry
A guy that doesn’t understand/consider/care about the needs of a woman he’s interested in? I’m shocked 😅
Good on her for holding her ground.
I did so much crazy shit when dating that in retrospect should’ve gotten me hurt or killed LOL, just because I didn’t know how to say no.
@ImWatson91
You are one woman to whom I bend the knee.
A group of us lesbians harmed by gender ideology spoke today —many had experienced transition/transition regret.
Thank YOU, my priceless friend.
I fully intend to give you your flowers while you’re still here to appreciate them. 💐
@ImWatson91
Yep.
Therapists tend to prefer the kind of life problems that can be neatly wrapped up in a little bow, too. Any kind of complexity or long-term struggle, they can’t really help with. Just my experience.
What do I do with my female rage?
With my female pain?
With my lesbian pain?
Eventually I'll shut up about having been r
@p3d
, once I know what to do with all this darkness as a result.
I get it now, why being violated like that can kill. Can ruin someone's life.
@LadieLabrys
As a lesbian who knows firsthand how horrible women can be, I disagree.
Children need GOOD fathers, if they’re so lucky. And if not, male friends and relatives to guide them. Especially young boys.
A woman simply can’t raise a man as effectively by herself, or with a lesbian
@ThomasWillett9
Trans people are only experts in our individual experiences; an individual experience of distress doesn't make someone an expert. I would know.
Today I'm doing one of the hardest things I've ever had to do--harder than all my surgeries, combined.
I need all the prayers, kind words, reminders of my own value/strength. I'm so scared I'm deathly calm.
If I've ever brought value to your life, please remind me of that.
@ImWatson91
Trans spaces have the uncanny ability to take our deepest insecurities, amplify them, and make "fixing" those seem possible.
What those spaces can't give is objective sight. Being able to see ourselves as we are.
Try not to blame yourself too much for not being able to see❤️
@NotScottNewgent
I suspected as much; thank you for confirming. Knowing hormones/surgeries create an "uncanny valley" result has never matched my (male) self-perception.
If the goal is to blend in (mine is), that medical route is of no use. It's not transphobic to try and avoid further torment!
Trigger warning: pictures of my face/hair. You’ve been warned LOL
I’m this close to buzzing my head. Esp wrt my dexterity issues + length/thickness, it’s a nightmare w/o product.
Not as terrible from the front, but the side view of my hair is ugh. 😩
It frizzes terribly,
@IncelsCo
Why are women responsible for your inability to wank without hurting yourself or others?
Are men so unevolved that they can’t learn from their mistakes (porn is one of many)?
When you point the finger at someone, there’s 3 fingers pointing back.
Introspection is free.
@ThomasWillett9
@stormrobinson
What do you call a woman like me, fleeing womanhood like a house on fire, Thomas?
When women are having their actual breasts removed, their uteruses removed, their endocrine systems disrupted, because they are fleeing womanhood...that's misogyny--even if it's self-directed.
A Google ad.
I need these people to fuck off.
If I hadn’t already promised my father to stay alive, and I weren’t writing the Next Great American Novel ™️, I would’ve been dead a long time ago due to the war between body and mind.
Euphoria?
Try hell on Earth.
So insulting.
@ImWatson91
As you should be!! 💔 there's no such thing as too emotional. Not to me, anyway.
The more you talk about AA, the more the wheels in my head start turning :) I was just going to white knuckle it by myself, but what you describe sounds nice.
@dnalerinrehtron
@andrew_b72
Jenny, don't listen to them.
People that suffer w/ gender dysphoria; those "living as" the opposite sex; such as myself are perfectly capable of acknowledging the reality of sex, because it is the root of our pain. I can't speak for others, but I need GC voices; I need the truth.
Prayers and good vibes, please.
Going to do a hard thing tonight.
The hard part for me is showing up in the first place, with my hair long, looking and sounding like I do while baring my soul to strangers 🥺😳😰
@ImWatson91
@CaptainVirgilx
Good on you--you're in the right place and can't undo the past, but you can move forward. Being sick and tired of the same shite over and over again can work to your advantage, if you let it. Be safe x
First, I still feel a responsibility to speak out on behalf of children transitioning.
I've required a baclofen pump to manage my disability from age 4. Been an experiment for over 20 yrs.
Experimental medicine is brutal for children like I was.
2/
Over the past couple months, I've started exploratory therapy, both individual and group, for dysphoria. I went back on medication for depression. I'm able to acknowledge my womanhood while still going through life legally as male.
I'm just Jayme. Call me whatever you want. 5/
Why does calling out the hypocrisy of transwomen/transmen--making their individual experience of dysphoria everyone else's problem--count as "transphobia"?
People w/ mental illness can, and do, commit crimes; trespass others' boundaries; and make society unsafe.
Truth /= hate.
The reality of transphobia against trans women specifically is trans women don’t make you unsafe. They make you FEEL uncomfortable with YOUR own existence and your own womanhood or manhood or whatever. That’s not trans women’s problem. It’s your problem.
@TullipR
There's very little that I am moved to save. There's even less that moves me wrt transition. Your full quote here are the words I could not say, perfectly crystallized. Thank you. You save lives simply by being you, mine included.
Is the full series available to stream in the US?
Them: misgendering is literal violence!
Me: Brianna Ghey was male, their sex affected their lived experiences, and saying so is not transphobic or disrespectful. Compelling speech is not OK.
Them: *ableism, wishes for violence and death, encouragement toward suicide*
@detransaqua
Oh Prisha...I am so sorry. 💔🫂
I knew in my gut that these surgeons don't care about the people they operate on, but what you shared here actually really helped me.
Abstaining from hormones/surgery is hard, but doable; however, fighting through the desire to modify my body is
Second, I want to be a voice for those like me: severely disabled *and* dysphoric women.
Transition has touched a small group of us. A handful from the US, UK, and other countries, all medicalized.
I'm the outlier, and horrified by what I've found in the disabled community. 3/
It's my only sister's birthday today.
She's 2 years younger than me. We've always had a difficult relationship, for many reasons.
After years of silence/hostility from me, I called her to wish her a happy birthday; the call and attempts at apology from me were met w/ nastiness.
@ImWatson91
Atta girl.
I will tell you as many times as you need to hear it: you’re a survivor. You CAN live and thrive. You’re so strong.
This attitude of gratitude is a quality that will help you through this life; and in my humble opinion, it’s underutilized.
You’re alive; now live ❤️
@ImWatson91
And they tell people who already believe that about themselves (me) that we’re right in our thinking…oh, and here’s how to “fix” that feeling.
It’s an insidious lure I have no real way to fight. Their reinforcement influences some actions, but the desire to be fixed is all me.
I pulled down my original Substack, but set a new one up. A lot of what I shared came from a place of deep pain, anger, and fear. This time, I want to write from a place of radical honesty--just me, speaking for me.
That link is in my bio and my new blog should be active soon.
6/
If you would have told me at 15 that over a decade later, my body would be similar to that of a middle-aged woman’s, I would’ve laughed.
The physical, mental, financial, and emotional stress brought on by a lifetime of surgeries is very real.
Posting another face pic may not be the wisest choice, but I’m doing something super intense in the next few days: appearing on camera, as is, by myself.
I just want to know if makeup would be a good idea prior to filming; paranoid about looking my best.
No need for compliments.
@DanniBrener
@PlanetPluvio
You have every right to safe single sex spaces. Years on, I remain shocked to discover the entitlement of other male-identified women.
My approach to my experience has always been: be as collaborative as possible, even to my detriment.
Testosterone/cognitive dissonance must be
@ImWatson91
@JuliaMasonMD1
You’ve had to harden your heart enough. Softness will come with time. You don’t deserve the loneliness that comes w/ a permanently hardened heart; trust me x
Third, I just don't want to be alone w/ my dysphoria as I'm forced to age w/o intervention.
I live between lesbian and transsexual. I can acknowledge my sex, but knowing I will be an old woman who still longs for maleness is painful. 4/
@ImWatson91
@RadfemBlack
It's got naught to do with loving/not loving people. It's the booze, honey. Designed to be addictive. Designed to (temporarily) soothe whatever is hurting you. You drinking doesn't make you a bad person; don't be daft.
It's not a personal failing, to be an addict.
@hatpinwoman
@somemuttscantb1
Lorelei, I find your threads on paraphilia fascinating and have started to go down that rabbit hole to learn more, albeit for different reasons; how do you manage to be so well read/find the older texts you write about?
I’m hunting for a copy of Masoch’s wife’s memoir; no luck.
@ImWatson91
@ReduxxMag
Have you heard of
@autogynephilic
or his book, "AutoHeterosexuals", by chance? He lists the various documented subtypes of AGP; menstruation is a common fetish for many such males. (The book also includes an entire CHAPTER on AAP. I'll let you know how it is, when I get to that
@kelly_cadigan
You also couldn't legally consent to what was done to you, nor were those interventions medically necessary.
The adults that were supposed to protect you from yourself did the opposite.
Even if you never see it that way, you were groomed.
Grief and pain are honest, relatable, universal experiences.
Believing that your sex has literally been changed through cosmetic interventions is not one.
I still struggle not to hate myself for wanting to medicalize, but the grief helps me let the pain go.
/end
@detransaqua
When I used to use cannabis (edibles), I found it more effective than any anti-depressant/mood stabilizer/trauma-related coping skill I've ever used.
My dysphoria and depression completely alleviated, when using.
Frustrated that I had to return to traditional psych meds (had
I can now acknowledge that me medicalizing would be a form of hiding/protection.
Removing my breasts, deepening my voice, adding muscle to my body would be a misguided attempt at protection.
I constantly experience being a target, albeit not from men.
I just want to be safe.
On this
#InternationalMensDay2023
, shoutout to all the men in hoodies and beanies, still getting out in the cold and making shit happen for themselves and their families.
I’m talking truck drivers, those who pump gas, and those others who quietly keep their economies going in an
@TullipR
Thank you for sharing. As hard as that is to sit with/read, every line she wrote resonates, in a very painful way.
I’m so angry for her.
To die by suicide is difficult enough, but to be erased by TRAs after the fact?
Both are my worst nightmare. I knew that if I died, I didn’t
I’m so drunk I’m having panic attacks even while drinking, now.
It never used to be like this.
Alcohol is poison.
It promises relief from pain. It lies.
When I’m not drinking to handle pain, I try so hard to stay sober.
I promised myself I wouldn’t drink today.
I hate hurting
@Jebadoo2
At least I knew there was an actual, medical basis for my discomfort. The reinforcement didn't help, but no one promised to "fix" me.
Adults creating false wrongness and then actually promising to "fix" it makes my soul ache.
He’s home. He has vestibular disease (tick borne). Negative for heartworm.
He’s stumbling around/shaky on his legs, vomiting, and won’t eat.
I know it’s treatable and unlikely to be severe, but I’ve never seen this before—my legs are supposed to be shaky, not his! (dark humor)
My senior beagle (and light of my life) Spock 🐶 was just rushed to the hospital.
He can’t even keep water down and he’s super cold, staggering and shaking.
I’m remaining optimistic but I’m scared.
He’s my baby. I’m not in any position to lose him just yet 💔
Please pray/send
@ImWatson91
Signing a consent form and actually understanding what post-surgical recovery entails are two separate things.
There’s no way to predict what recovery will be like; anyone who says otherwise is lying, even if they’re well-intentioned about it.
I’ve had so many doctors swear up
I love my parents. They’re great people.
Told my dad how isolated I’ve been/felt, how I want to travel the world, work from anywhere, and not be held back anymore.
He (and my Mom!) are starting small but making travel plans—us together, as a family.
They’re so supportive 🥺😭
My family and friends are deeply frustrated with my quiet periods. I know that I have some form of PTSD, depression, and also some form of anhedonia (loss of pleasure in pleasurable activities).
The non-depressed part of me wants to reach out. The other 99% is bloody exhausted.
@Serena_Partrick
@byron9164
Case in point: I’ve started using female pronouns again for myself IRL.
Rather than supported, I’ve been laughed at, mocked, and told that I’ve lost my marbles.
It’s my body. My experience of femaleness. I should be able to name the obvious without such a response.
Asking for prayers if you’re that sort of person, or strength if you’re not. Going for an appointment tomorrow that I’ve never had; and doing it alone. Never had a med appt alone, before.
I’ve been praying most of the night and have to be up early tomorrow. Still anxious.
@ImWatson91
I can't actually imagine looking a rape victim in the eye and forcing her to carry a child. Those on my "side" consistently put ideology over very real issues women w/ unwanted pregnancies face.
Too much to put in a tweet. TLDR: we're not all pro-forced-birth.
@ImWatson91
What do you have to be ashamed of—being human?
Trying to cover for someone you love?
Struggling with a hard-as-fuck existence?
Genuinely asking.
@ImWatson91
2 WEEKS SOBER!!!!😍🥳 so fucking proud of you!
Sobriety is boring as fuck, painful as fuck, and lonely as fuck, at first. It does get easier but distraction is key.
I shall toast to your continued success w/ the sober beverage I wish was booze.
@ImWatson91
From one terrified woman to another...you don't need to do that to be safe. I tried and it didn't fucking work. If anything, I only made myself more of a target.
Carry pepper spray or a gun; take self-defense classes; but when it comes to transition, run like hell.
I’m an Amy too (my birth name).
I’m fully aware of my womanhood.
Some women have dysphoria. I am one.
If you’d rather, I’ll go silent and give in to the urge to permanently medicalize my body.
Ruining my body would be effortless.
Do you actually support all women?
Morning Jayme, it's evening Jayme.
You tweeted this, feeling low and sad...
then you had coffee. Breakfast. Medication!!
Christmas festivities. Puppy cuddles, and a phone call w/ your family.
You read, a lot.
You discovered more to live for.
You survived. Go you. 💜
I know it’s Christmas. A happy time for many, and what used to be my favorite holiday.
The only thing I wanted for Christmas was to not wake up today. I suppose not waking up tomorrow is a consolation prize.
Love your people. Have a lovely holiday 💕
@SammyBarrow32
@ImWatson91
I am an alcoholic.
I put my loved ones through hell when I drank.
I also know more than what Sinéad posts here about the situation at hand.
While no one is responsible for Sinéad getting sober except her, “tough love” has not worked with her in the past.
Different addicts need