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Instead of reacting blindly through the force of emotional habit, we should examine whether it is helpful or realistic to become unhappy in situations. We do not need to become unhappy just because things do not go our way.
Painful feelings are only feelings, a few moments of bad weather in the mind, with no power to cause us any lasting harm. There is no need to take them so seriously.
No matter how difficult our external circumstances may become, for as long as we maintain a calm and peaceful mind, the situation will not be a problem for us.
When painful feelings arise in our mind there is no need to panic; we can patiently accept them, experience them, and investigate their nature and where they come from. When we do this, we will discover that painful feelings do not come from outside but arise within our own mind.
No matter how difficult our external circumstances may become, for as long as we maintain a calm and peaceful mind, the situation will not be a problem for us.
Another person’s actions make us unhappy only if we allow them to stimulate a negative response in us. Criticism, for example, has no power from its own side to hurt us; we are hurt only because of our self-cherishing.
We say that sea water is salty. However, the real nature of water is not salty because salt can be removed from it. Similarly, all the faults we see in people are actually the faults of their delusions, not of the people themselves.
We often feel that it is someone else who is making us unhappy, and we can become quite resentful. If we look at the situation carefully, however, we will find that it is always our own mental attitude that is responsible for our unhappiness.
By patiently accepting painful feelings without clinging to them, the negative karmic potentials from which they arose are purified, and we will never have to experience that karma again.
If our mind is pure and peaceful we will be happy, regardless of our external circumstances, but if it is impure and unpeaceful we will never be happy, no matter how hard we try to change our external conditions.
How is it possible for something that exists only in our imagination to become a reality? It is a remarkable quality of the mind that we first create objects with our imagination and then bring them into our everyday reality. In fact everything starts in the imagination.
Without inner peace, outer peace is impossible. If we first establish peace within our minds by training in spiritual paths, outer peace will come naturally; but if we do not, world peace will never be achieved, no matter how many people campaign for it.
To prevent anger developing, as soon as we notice its early stages – such as inappropriate attention or slight feelings of hostility – we need to sever contact with the object and quench the first sparks of anger by meditation, reminding ourself of all the harm anger brings.
We do not become a better person just by fulfilling our wishes for worldly success; we are as likely to develop the qualities that really matter – such as wisdom, patience and compassion – through our failures as through our successes.
Just as there is room in the sky for a thunderstorm, so there is room in the vast space of our mind for a few painful feelings; and just as a storm has no power to destroy the sky, so unpleasant feelings have no power to destroy our mind.
Our sense that we are an island, an independent, self-sufficient individual, bears no relation to reality. It is closer to the truth to picture ourself as a cell in the vast body of life, distinct yet intimately bound up with all living beings.
If we do not maintain a peaceful state of mind, we are not happy even if we have ideal conditions. On the other hand, when our mind is peaceful, we are happy, even if our external conditions are unpleasant.
Anger destroys our personal relationships, our reputation, and the harmony within families and communities. Most of the arguments and most of the day-to-day difficulties we experience with our family, friends and colleagues are due to anger.
Abandoning all our anger is a big job, but if we take it one step at a time it is not so difficult, and gradually the tendencies of anger in our mind will become weaker and weaker.
If we train in meditation, our mind will gradually become more and more peaceful, and we shall experience a purer and purer form of happiness. Eventually we shall be able to stay happy all the time, even in the most difficult circumstances.
If we maintain a humble, respectful attitude towards everyone, good qualities and inspiration will flow into our mind all the time, like streams flowing into a valley.
Buddhas are not enlightened from the beginning. They were once ordinary beings who, like us, had the seeds of compassion. By practicing the correct methods, they increased
their compassion, making it more and more powerful.
Problems arise only if we respond to difficulties with a negative state of mind. Therefore, if we want to be free from problems, we must transform our mind.
There are three reasons why we need to study and practice the teachings of Buddha: to develop our wisdom, to cultivate a good heart, and to maintain a peaceful state of mind.
The entire practice of patience, and indeed of Buddha’s teachings as a whole, is to provide protection for the mind. Ultimately it is our mind that determines whether we are happy or miserable.
Just as I wish to be free from suffering and experience only happiness, so do all other beings. In this respect, I am no different from any other being; we are all equal.
Shantideva: May those who are poor find wealth and possessions, those weak with sorrow and anxiety find joy, and may those exhausted from the loss of their wealth be refreshed, their minds made stable and glorious.
For as long as we are in samsara, we cannot avoid unpleasant, difficult situations and a certain amount of physical discomfort, but by training our mind to look at frustrating situations in a more realistic manner, we can free ourself from a lot of unnecessary mental suffering.
We should consider what is the real nature of our problems and what are their main causes. Our problems do not exist outside our mind. The real nature of our problems is our unpleasant feelings, which are part of our mind. All our problems come from our delusions.
Once anger has flared up in our mind it is difficult to control. It becomes like a forest fire raging in whichever direction the wind blows. Therefore by watching our own mind we must learn to identify anger in its early stages and avert it before it explodes.
Gradually we develop mental equilibrium, a balanced mind that is happy all the time, rather than an unbalanced mind that oscillates between the extremes of excitement and despondency.
Just as there is room in the sky for a thunderstorm, so there is room in the vast space of our mind for a few painful feelings; and just as a storm has no power to destroy the sky, so unpleasant feelings have no power to destroy our mind.
Pure love is unmixed with attachment and stems entirely from a concern for others’ happiness. It never gives rise to problems but only to peace and happiness for both ourself and others.
We cannot help others if we attack their values and beliefs or if we ignore their temperament and their personal circumstances. We have to adapt our own behavior so that it suits the other person and makes him or her feel at ease.
Generating the four immeasurables:
May everyone be happy,
May everyone be free from misery,
May no one ever be separated from their happiness,
May everyone have equanimity, free from hatred and attachment.
By patiently accepting painful feelings without clinging to them, the negative karmic potentials from which they arose are purified, and we will never have to experience that karma again.
Another cause of high status is to respect all beings, not only our parents, our Teachers or our elders and superiors. We should never look down on anyone or treat them with contempt. We should regard even an earthworm as a worthy object of respect and consideration.
If our mind is peaceful we shall be free from worries and mental discomfort, and so we shall experience true happiness; but if our mind is not peaceful, we shall find it very difficult to be happy, even if we are living in the very best conditions.
We are like travelers in a desert who exhaust themselves running after mirages, or like someone walking down a road at night mistaking the shadows of the trees for criminals or wild animals waiting to attack.
Remembering that getting angry will solve nothing and only create more suffering for both ourself and others, we should make the effort to channel our mind in a more constructive direction.
As we begin to control our mind, negative thoughts may still arise, but they will have no power over us and will not cause us to commit the negative actions that are the basis of all our problems. With such self-control, we will always be calm and composed.
Caring for ourself is not self-cherishing. We need to care for ourself to maintain this human life so that we can continually apply effort to accomplishing its real meaning.
Many people are very intelligent in accomplishing worldly attainments. This intelligence is not wisdom because worldly attainments such as a high position, reputation, wealth and success in business are deceptive. If we die tomorrow, they will disappear tomorrow.
If we did not experience any adverse conditions it is unlikely that we would generate virtuous minds such as renunciation, because it is difficult to develop a genuine wish for freedom while we are enjoying an easy and pleasant life.
Dharma is the actual protection through which we are permanently released from the sufferings of sickness, ageing, death and rebirth; and Sangha are the supreme spiritual friends who guide us to correct spiritual paths.
If a friend of ours were suffering from cancer we would not blame him for his physical disease, and, in the same way, if someone is suffering from anger or attachment we should not blame him for the diseases of his mind.
Happiness and suffering are parts of the mind; the former is a joyful feeling and the latter an unpleasant feeling. Since happiness and suffering are parts of the mind if we want to avoid suffering and find true happiness we need to understand the nature and functions of the mind
In 'Guide to the Bodhisattva’s Way of Life' Shantideva says that there is no practice more important than keeping our mind free from negativity. Normally we take great care to protect our body from injury, but it is much more important to protect our mind.
Pure compassion is a mind that finds the suffering of others unbearable, but it does not make us depressed. In fact it gives us tremendous energy to work for others and to complete the spiritual path for their sake.
Anger is the greatest enemy of living beings. It harmed us in the past, it harms us now, and, if we do not overcome it through the practice of patience, it will continue to harm us in the future.
Buddha identified the six root delusions that poison our mind as follows:
(1) attachment, (2) anger, (3) pride, (4) ignorance, (5) deluded doubt and (6) deluded view.
We can sometimes help others by providing them with money or better material conditions, but we should remember that the greatest benefit we can give is to help them overcome their delusions and find true, lasting happiness within.
Buddha gave the most profound teachings for us to use as practical advice. His teachings are known as ‘Dharma’, which means supreme protection from suffering. Dharma is the actual method to solve our human problems.
If we do not maintain a peaceful state of mind, we are not happy even if we have ideal conditions. On the other hand, when our mind is peaceful, we are happy, even if our external conditions are unpleasant. Therefore, the development of these qualities is of utmost importance.
If we do not cultivate a good heart, our selfish motivation destroys harmony and good relationships with others. We have no peace, and no chance to gain pure happiness. Without inner peace, outer peace is impossible.
We can change our world simply by changing our mind, and if we wish to be free from suffering all we need to do is purify our mind. Having purified our own mind we will then be in a position to fulfill our compassionate wish by showing others how to do the same.
Cherishing our neighbors and the people in our local area will naturally lead to harmony in the community and society at large, and this will make everyone happier.
To solve the problem of anger, we first need to recognize the anger within our mind, acknowledge how it harms both ourself and others, and appreciate the benefits of being patient in the face of difficulties.
Remembering that getting angry will solve nothing and only create more suffering for both ourself and others, we should then make the effort to channel our mind in a more constructive direction.
The principal causes of both happiness and problems are in the mind, not in the external world. If we were able to maintain a calm and peaceful mind all day long, we would never experience any problems or mental suffering.
There is an enormous difference between the thoughts ‘I am feeling bad’ and ‘Unpleasant feelings are arising in my mind.’ When we identify with our feelings, we make them bigger and more solid than they are, and it becomes far more difficult to let the unpleasant feelings go.
During our meditation sessions we may experience peaceful states of mind and develop good intentions; but if we forget these as soon as our session has finished we shall find it impossible to solve our daily problems, or to make progress in our spiritual practice.
What is the ultimate, supreme goal of human life? We should ask ourself what we consider to be most important – what do we wish for, strive for or daydream about?
We can use our experience of pain to make us aware of the much greater pain experienced by countless other sentient beings. In this way we will increase our compassion.
Even when we have the time to relax we tend to switch on the television or radio and are subjected to a multitude of ever-changing images and sounds. We are so used to being stimulated from the outside that we find it difficult to be quiet and enjoy the stillness of our own mind.
'Mantra' is a Sanskrit word, literally meaning ‘mind protection’. Mantra protects the mind from ordinary appearances and conceptions. There are four types of mantra: mantras that are mind, mantras that are inner wind, mantras that are sound, and mantras that are form.
Our mind is like a cloudy sky, in essence clear and pure but overcast by the clouds of delusions. Just as the thickest clouds eventually disperse, so too even the heaviest delusions can be removed from our mind.
Samsara is not an external prison; it is a prison made by our own mind. It will never end by itself but, by diligently practicing the true spiritual path and thereby eliminating our self-grasping and other delusions, we can bring our samsara to an end.
For as long as our mind is filled with anger we will not find happiness either in this life or in lives to come. Anger is our real enemy, and until we evict it from our mind it will continue to cause us unimaginable suffering.
Practicing patience does not mean that we should let others commit non-virtue without intervening – it only means that we should guard our own mind from the delusion of anger.
The basic practice or moral discipline is as follows: at the very beginning of any action, whether it is thought, word or physical deed, we should examine our motivation to see whether it is virtuous or non-virtuous.
Our delusions are now very strong and difficult to control. We have so little inner peace that it is rare to enjoy a peaceful mind even for just a few hours. If we check our mind we will see that we are living in a state of almost constant discomfort and anxiety.
To be able to help others effectively we need a profoundly compassionate intention that wishes to free others from their manifest suffering and its underlying causes.
The only thing that will never deceive us is the attainment of full enlightenment. What is enlightenment? It is the inner light of wisdom that is completely free from all mistaken appearance, and whose function is to bestow mental peace upon each and every living being every day.
The entire practice of patience, and indeed of Buddha’s teachings as a whole, is to provide protection for the mind. Ultimately it is our mind that determines whether we are happy or miserable.