No one is so rare that you make them an exception to your rules in order to keep them around. What one person won’t do the the next one will. If high standards can push them away, GOOD, that means they were never worthy in the first place...
Don’t front on the internet as if you’re not battling insecurities. Hollow bragging doesn’t lead to real confidence it leads to further repression. Be truthful with how you feel and seek real change about yourself because you can’t cure low self-esteem with lies!
Too many of you become exclusive with men who are still dating around. Too many of you give it up to men who won’t even take you on dates. And too many of you pretend that you don’t want anything serious so you don’t get hurt, only to end up hurt ANYWAY
Long relationships don’t mean love! A man may change for his next girl, but he will never change for that weak GF that has a history of letting him slide. Men don’t love unconditionally, they love based on the condition that you keep catering to them…
The average man you date shouldn’t make it to a second date let alone between your legs. If he turned out to be an immature asshole after sex, then he was one before sex. So why couldn’t you see it? Because you were blinded by his hustle.
Date smart, date fearless, and date like you’re the prize because YOU ARE. Let go of the basic mindset that you’re not going to find anyone new, that one option is better than no option, or that you’re not good enough to attract what you really need...
A man who you don’t even like can apply pressure, sell you on himself enough for a date, take you out, then ask you to pay half and you do it? You’re a woman, the center of the universe, yet you’ve been devalued to the point where you are literally paying to spend time with a man
If you’re not able to get your rent paid by the man you’re dating or if you are in a relationship and can’t get money for shopping, then what are you doing with your life? It’s not about what you can afford on your own, what is he bringing to YOUR table...
You can do what Lori Harvey does, meaning casually date multiple top-shelf men, but why don’t you? The excuse is that you can’t find those kinds of men; the reality is you refuse to hold yourself accountable for being too afraid to take risks that lead to romantic opportunities.
“He wasn’t into you he was trying to get into you, and there’s a difference. You’re too old to be falling for basic game from these basic men who’s only skill set is telling hopeless romantics what they want to hear... 🚨
"How can I make him start valuing me,” You mean AFTER you’ve fucked him, sucked him, and bought him expensive birthday gifts? That man will go blow his money on a girl he’s known for two weeks and hasn’t even kissed before he spends money on a woman who has already played herself
Where do you work?
What do you exactly do?
Asking these things and having a standard doesn’t make you a gold digger it makes you wise! Partnering down because of potential is a Basica mentality.
No one is better at brainwashing than a man without a job… my bad “in between jobs” He has all the time in the world to love bomb and talk about y’all future because manipulating a love starved woman is the easiest way out of his present situation.
“The stressful hill that you’re climbing can be tunneled through. With knowledge comes power, but it is dependent on you learning, embracing, and doing.”
Awaken The Spartan Within 📖
Demand equality and still tell them you’re not splitting a bill or picking up a dinner check. That’s how you get reparations and bring balance to The Force.
“You were put here to be happy, never let these low vibrational boys who call themselves men guilt you into settling when you deserve someone top tier!” -
@8plus9
People, even those that love you, will often try to hold you down so you will never amount to more than what they are. They fear what you can become and poison your mind. The antidote is to revisit their lies, and feed yourself the truth...
"Pussy runs this world! You don’t have to break your neck, put your needs second, nor compromise your womanhood to keep a man around..." ===
#FarFromBasyc
A “good woman” is not the cure for a broken man! Stop buying into this idea that love cures all. A lot of these men are damaged, emotionally stunted, and flat out cowards who only know how to behave during the honeymoon period...
Spoiler alert he’s not your soulmate or soul tie! He was thirsty and telling you what you wanted to hear. Trust your instincts always, never your ego… ⬅️⬅️⬅️
To sacrifice your dignity, your prime, and your self-respect in order to hold on to a man you falsely label as a limited edition, will be a waste of your life -
@8plus9
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You don’t have to tell a man who has genuine love for you how to treat you. He pays attention to your likes and dislikes, maps out your attributes, and treats you accordingly based on your standards. That’s the mental effort a man who sees a future with you puts in off top!
“I’m not good enough so I have to make this situation work or I’ll always be single” is a mental trap! That voice in your head doubting your value is self-sabotage. Stop listening and know that you are worthy of so much more” -
@8plus9
You can’t say “I wish I could get spoiled with XYZ” then be afraid to ask the person you’re with for things. Stop feeling guilty for wanting a lifestyle where someone loves and takes care of you.
Love isn’t promising to act right after he fucks up; love is him acting right from the start so he won’t fuck it up. Love isn’t telling a grown man he needs to change to keep you; love is a grown man changing on his own because he can’t imagine life without you…
Stop pressuring yourself to make up for lost time overnight and stop being negative when things don’t go as planned. Healthy and lasting change happens in steps not strides, and you’re always one smart decision away from a totally different life...