It’s here - and it’s gonna be huge!! 🎉😭
I am SO excited to finally reveal the cover of my upcoming memoir, ‘Underclass’.
You asked me to write about my life, so I did. I hope you LOVE every page.
I was going to write a post about the symbolism in my book cover, but…
Yesterday marked the end of my 10-year plan.
10 years ago I was a single teenage mum who had just escaped rape & abuse with her tiny baby.
Yesterday I became Dr Jessica Eaton (PhD, FRSA), specialist in psychology of victim blaming of women - and my son is an amazing kid BTW...
Just wanna see something...
Like this tweet if you are:
A woman
And
You told a medical professional that there was something wrong with you and they told you that it was in your head, or your were wrong... and it turned out you were right.
Working class academics:
Be proud of your roots, be proud of your accent, your dialect, your swears and be proud of the fact that you mispronounce words you have only ever read in books cos you never heard anyone say them. You’re on your way to something brilliant. We need you!
Like this tweet if:
- You are a woman
- You have ever been ignored, gaslit, accused of exaggerating or told its all in your head by a doctor when you sought help for a medical problem
I just wanna see something.
A reminder that Elsevier made $10.5 BILLION in 2022 from selling your academic journals and articles behind paywalls, and make more profit than Amazon, Google, and Apple every year…
And paid the academics who wrote the articles $0
And paid the reviewers of the articles $0
In 2014, a police officer entered my house under false pretences & threatened to ‘kick my head in’ if I didn’t drop assault charges against someone he was related to. He came in patrol car & uniform. Station denied it ever happened.
The info about Couzens today is way too real.
I am absolutely horrified by this comment about Meghan Markle by Jeremy Clarkson. The hatred. The obsession. The mention of her naked. This proves everything M&H are saying.
Absolutely jaw-dropping, terrifying misogyny & abuse here from Clarkson.
At the risk of this becoming extremely heated... is anyone else feeling politically homeless with absolutely no party representing them?
I can’t be alone in this, surely.
You don’t have to give reasons or comments but... maybe RT this if you feel the same way.
Did you know that the way a woman looks will impact whether her rapist or abuser is found guilty in a courtroom?
This was one of the most depressing findings of my PhD years ago.
Here’s what I learned:
If a woman is raped or abused, and she is seen as unattractive,…
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One time in 2017 when I was teaching teachers how to deliver good sex ed in schools, at the beginning of the course, the headteacher came to me & said ‘We had a meeting and we all agreed that we will say ‘penis’ but none of us are comfortable saying ‘vagina’ in lessons.’
Stripping Shamima Begum of her citizenship when she was groomed at 15 years old by adult men, raped, married, and abused is one of the most appalling decisions I’ve ever seen.
And I want to draw your attention to a parallel.
The judge Dame Sue Carr stated today, ‘It could…
Did you know that the way a woman looks will impact whether her rapist or abuser is found guilty in a courtroom?
This was one of the most depressing findings of my PhD years ago.
Here’s what I learned:
🧵 time
Every time a woman or girl says the words:
‘I know this is a stupid question but...’
Before they ask a completely rational and interesting question, my heart breaks a little.
TEACH GIRLS THAT THEY ARE NOT STUPID AND THEIR QUESTIONS ABOUT THE WORLD ARE ALL VALID.
‘The sexiest, most alluring thing a woman can have is confidence.’
Oh will you please fuck off?
We do not exist to be as sexy and alluring as possible. We are not here for men. Our confidence is so we can tell you to shove messages like this up your arse.
Did anyone else grow up being told:
“Make sure you have nice knickers on, in case you’re hit by a bus”
I cannot be the only girl told this? Is this just some weird thing I was told… or is it a regional/time period/contextual thing??
Anyone else heard this before?
Sorry sorry… did I just read that right? Harvey Weinstein has his rape conviction overturned because his lawyers have said there was too much bad character evidence and too many women came forward with their own experiences?
Fucking spare me. Honest to god. The state of this…
Two years ago today, Jaimi and I were spiked by a waiter in a hotel whilst we were sat chatting. We were both incredibly ill, and it’s a miracle we both realised, got back to our room, locked and barricaded the door, and then passed out. When we each came round, the pain and…
I’ve been called ugly & fat thousands of times this week cos men believe that the worst thing they can say to me is about my appearance.
I would be so much more offended if they were like, ‘I read your book, it lacked citation and critical analysis & had a typo on p.93’
I just woke up to a massive abusive email from a man who says his girlfriend left him after reading my blog & realised he was abusive. He says I’ve ruined his life and that I am
‘A murderer of feelings and relationships’
Anyway, to the woman who left him, good for you!!
The obsessive hatred of Meghan Markle is sickening to watch. The racism, misogyny, contempt and resentment for her means that people are deliberately overlooking the autonomy of Harry to leave his toxic situation to seek safety from what he knows happened to his own Mum.
Katie Price might not see your comments mocking and blaming her for being beaten up by her abusive partner, but every woman on your social media who has been abused or violated by men can see your comments and see you for who you really are.
Can we just stop calling size 10, 12 and 14 women ‘plus size models’ and start calling the thinner models ‘minus size models’ to denote the fact that they are significantly thinner than the average woman?
Average UK size is 14-16. Therefore the models & women are not plus size.
This isn’t journalism, it isn’t fair comment, it’s just abusive, violent misogyny… how the hell did this get past editors too?
And the casual throwing in of Nicola Sturgeon is atrocious too.
Appalling.
If you’re in a relationship with someone who punches doors or walls, (or punches holes in walls during arguments), I’m here to say that they are violent, intimidating, abusive and dangerous. They do it on purpose.
It’s not normal. It’s not acceptable.
I’m LIVID. My little sister is an A&E nurse and is in hosp now with severe COVID symptoms. She has asthma too. They are refusing to swab her saying they can’t Cos of capacity. Told her to book it thru her own hospital employer. They’ve booked her for a swab in 7 days.
More girls become teenage parents than boys each year at a rate of around 4:1. At first I didn't understand how more girls could become teen parents than boys. Then I read the research and its because most teen girls become pregnant by adult men, not by other teen boys. :(
Violent men don’t ‘lose control’. Ever. In fact, they’ve never lost control. Not once.
Know how I know?
Because they haven’t ‘lost control’ with their boss. Or someone bigger than them. They don’t ‘lose control’ in public. Or in front of your family.
They are in total control.
For anyone who didn’t already realise, I hope this ongoing royal family debacle has finally opened your eyes to how propaganda works, how much control the royal family had over their public image, and how bought and paid for the British media actually is.
You know something? I don’t know a single person who isn’t struggling at the moment. Life. Stress. Trauma. Christmas. Money. Jobs. Pandemic. Constant uncertainty. Fear of illness. Fear of lockdown. Fear of never getting back to normal.
I don’t know a person who isn’t exhausted.
Let me tell you why all those rape prevention campaigns that tell women not to go here, don’t drink this, don’t get in that taxi, don’t walk there, don’t wear that, don’t say this, don’t talk to them don’t actually work:
Because you’re talking to the wrong fucking person.
Listen Kelly, if your man controls your food and calls you a ‘balloon’ you need to cut that arsehole out of your life and strut away from him like the queen you are. This is abuse and control.
Jeremy, there’s programmes for men like you, pal.
BBC rang me about an interview they wanted me to do & said ‘I know you sort of identify as a psychologist and you call yourself a psychologist on your twitter but what are you actually?’
Me: ‘Pretty sure I’m a psychologist with a PhD in Psychology.’
WTF man.
My message to women and girls:
You are capable of things you haven’t even thought possible. Dream BIG, sisters. Ambitions and self-belief will take you anywhere - even if no one is opening doors for you.
Get a screwdriver out and jimmy them open. You can do anything.
I think all girls should be given the strong counter-narrative from as early age as possible that they do not have to ever have children, or get married, and that their lives can just be for them.
This is totally missing at present. Might build some stuff around it.
Apologies because I never usually talk online personally about people but cannot help but notice the similarities between Jeremy Clarkson and Piers Morgan right now. Their comments and hatred for Meghan are off the chart.
A man emailed me to tell me he has copied my article about strong independent women & changed it to men because he said it was ‘one sided’.
And in a weird twist, he’s now emailing me complaining that no one liked his plagiarised version of my article and somehow that’s my fault.
Thank you for the thousands of well wishes and congratulations yesterday for me and
@Jaimi_Shrive
We had an amazing time, an absolutely perfect day ❤️
We have a million pics to work through from an EPIC party too 🥳
We have medicalised every normal emotion to the point where people don’t even use words anymore. People say ‘my anxiety is playing up’ when they mean ‘I am scared’. People say ‘I’m so depressed’ when they mean ‘I am very sad/low’. People say ‘I am so OCD’ when they are just tidy.
My kids have had two fish and named them Dave and Dave.
I asked them how they can tell them apart and my youngest son said ‘One of them is Scottish, so you pronounce his name differently.’
I mean. What do you say to that?
1. Amber Heard is in such a unique and unethical situation this week, one that is virtually unheard of in any other case. She is having to disclose extremely traumatic assaults including sexual assault for hours on a stand, with no support, no measures, no protection.
A horrible but extremely important study here. I have said for years that we don’t place enough focus on just how many sex offenders are in our society, which increases victim prejudice and victim blaming.
We always hear ‘1 in 4 girls will be abused’ or ‘1 in 3 women will be…
Just wanna see something:
Like and RT this tweet if you have ever been told, taught or heard that depression is caused by a chemical or hormonal imbalance in the brain.
One of the advantages of my book being ‘too accessible’ and ‘A level students could read it’ is that loads of teenage girls are reading my book and loads of mums are reading the book with their daughters.
There is NO drawback to academics making their work accessible.
Step up
It’s appalling to watch
@jk_rowling
say something about female biology that several years ago would have been uncontroversial, a given, an obvious - and is now not only seen as hate-filled but has led to her receiving thousands of abusive, threatening & misogynistic tweets.
8 years ago, I messaged a woman I was really worried was being abused by a man I knew. I told her if she ever needed to talk to someone about him, I would be there. She was angry at me and blocked me. She rang me last week & told me what he’s put her thru.
Reach out, sisters.
Ima say it with my chest:
I do not care about ‘stigmatising’ paedophiles, I will never ever call them ‘MAPs’ and the rainbow needs to step away from this shit right now today this minute yesterday.
Leaving my old life and being able to finally live as a lesbian woman with a woman I love immensely is still the single biggest gift I ever gave myself.
I’m so happy to share that
@Jaimi_Shrive
and I got engaged on the rooftop of the Arc De Triomphe in Paris.
Excited, privileged and so unbelievably happy to be marrying my best friend and the woman who has changed my whole life.
GAHHHHH. We did it ❤️
A reminder that Elsevier made
$6 BILLION selling your academic journals and articles behind paywalls, and made more profit than Amazon, Google and Apple every year for YEARS...
And paid the academics who wrote the articles $0
And paid the reviewers of the articles $0
Hundreds of professionals contacted me about my thread about Jo’s comments & told me that they totally agreed with her, but were too scared to say anything at work or on social media due to threats, violence & consequences.
This woman stood the fuck up.
Stand up with her.
Do any other women just get constantly told they are wrong? Was told I was wrong about my wisdom tooth, X-ray confirmed I was right. Just got told I was wrong about a fault with my car, pics of the error code confirmed I was right.
Do people just assume women make everything up?
My message to people who tried to attack me and thought I couldn’t do it bc I was some council estate nobody with thoughts above her station:
HAHAHAHAHAAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA
Don’t ever test me again tho
Next time someone asks me why women and girls don’t report male violence, I’m going to show them the video of police officers assaulting innocent young women who stood crying in silence at a vigil of a woman murdered by a police officer.
Don’t ask me why we don’t fucking report
Woman is murdered by man:
She was promiscuous. She was mentally unstable. She was taking risks. She was wearing a short skirt.
Man murders woman:
He is a talented golfer. Lover of cheese. Won first place for marrow growing. Liked travel. All round lovely guy. Perfect husband.
As a psychologist, as someone who specialises in trauma, as someone who can pick out what people are not saying, and as someone who can see abusive family dynamics - everything playing out around Meghan is deliberate, & designed to destroy her because she is a whistleblower.
How come women need a tonne of evidence, DNA, photos, confession in blood and a full psych assessment when they say they’ve been abused, but men just need their own word when they say the woman is lying? 🙃
I’m starting to get really irritated with media warning that hounding Kate Middleton is just like the hounding of Princess Diana. I read an article today which said, ‘one would have thought we had learned not to hound members of the royal family since the tragic death of Diana.’…
So many women are watching the public humiliation and character assassination of Amber Heard and realising they will never be believed or taken seriously about their own abuse, their own trauma responses and their own lives. Absolutely devastating for thousands of women.
Remember, if it was true that being sexually abused in childhood caused children to become sexual abusers - females would outnumber male sex offenders 5:1.
And yet male sex offenders outnumber women at 32:1, despite being 5 times less likely to be sexually abused in childhood.
This is misogyny. This is the reality of our courts.
This is why we can’t/won’t/don’t prosecute rape of women and girls.
Because no matter what he did, observers always find a way to blame the woman.
Been suspicious for a couple months now because so many people who follow me keep telling me they no longer see me tweet or post anything. Major eye roll.
Could you let me know if you can see this alright? Just comment a word or emoji or whatever and let me see if I’m right
@allisonpearson
This might actually be the worst response to this I have seen.
I actually can’t believe you’re encouraging people to witch hunt and shame people who reported a domestic disturbance to police.
We need MORE people to do this, not less.
This photo just came up on my memories from 15 years ago.
I remember this like it was yesterday. I’m a teenager here, with my baby son. I was watching Miracle on 34th Street.
I was suffering. I was terrified for my life. I was trying to keep the house calm. I was trying to…
Just more and more evidence that as a society, we can objectify, sexualise, rape and exploit girls and their bodies - but god forbid we teach them about their own bodies, their own pleasure, their own genitalia because that would be terrible.
Can’t stand the pressure on women to wear high heels. Sick of watching women struggle, trip, fall and wobble. Sick of the way we are all indoctrinated to believe that our feet throbbing, going numb, aching and being damaged is just part of looking feminine.
Fuck high heels, man.
For anyone claiming that men are killing more women and children because lockdown is affecting their mental health, could you explain why women are not killing more men and children in lockdown even though their mental health is suffering too?
Just wondering, yer know.
People are really uncomfortable with me having big tits AND a PhD
I can’t help my breast size and I certainly can’t help your misogyny so buhbye!
Won’t apologise for my damn body shape.
Dear all journalists and editors:
An adult cannot be ‘in a relationship with’ or ‘having an affair with’ or ‘having sex with’ or ‘having a fling with’ a child.
They are not girlfriends or boyfriends.
Every single time you publish this, it’s legally & morally incorrect.
We live in a country where a rapist or murderer can sit there with a defence lawyer and give a no comment interview whilst smirking at police and the victim is questioned about their fucking knickers, tinder acct & childhood for 6 hours with no lawyer.
Make it make sense.
For me, this conversation highlighted how misogynistic and harmful bad sex Ed could be. A teacher who refuses to say vagina? Role modelling about sex and relationships? Girls not being taught about masturbation or their own anatomy? No mention of vulvas or clit? Nah man.
Incase you need to hear this:
You never need to forgive an abuser. Anyone who pushes you to do so, is not acting in your best interests.
There is no evidence to suggest that you need to forgive to ‘move on’.
Please share.
I think men *believe* they want a strong, independent, educated, career focused, self-made woman right up until they actually get one and realise it would be much easier for them if she wasn’t so strong, so independent, so educated, so career focused and so self-made.
A lot of people saw the Depp text msg talking about murdering, burning and raping a woman’s corpse & said ‘I get it. I’ve said things like this when I’ve been angry/venting.’
And I can’t stop thinking about that. People out there really think that’s ok?
Really?
I just read a review about myself which mocked me for going to
@OpenUniversity
and I would like to take this opportunity to say that the reason I am here today with my book deals, TV work, a PhD from
@unibirmingham
and a successful company is because OU made that possible for me.
Looks like I’m going to have to be *that psychologist* again who comes along & calls BS on psychiatric diagnosis of disliked women.
A psychologist has distanced diagnosed Meghan with a made up disorder that doesn’t exist anywhere & used it to pathologise her in the press