So apparently JK Rowling's latest book involves an autistic person who joins a cult that pretends to be inclusive but judges anyone who opposes their views.
I can already smell the ableism here. I'm tired of autistic people being presented as "vulnerable" and "easily influenced"
Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria can really be distressing. For example, if someone even shouts at me, it'll likely just keep playing in my head all day no matter what I'm doing
I just had an idea for a second podcast series. "Autistic Infodumps". Each episode, a different autistic person would be invited to talk about their special interests and why they love them
It’s always sad when an autistic person apologises for infodumping about a special interest because it almost always means someone has made them feel bad for enjoying something so passionately
Being an autistic person is like acting in a play where nobody gave you the script, but all the actors still expect you to know the lines and get angry when you say the wrong thing.
"Autism is only disabling because of society"
I'm actually not sure I believe this anymore. Even in the most tolerant and accepting society, extreme sensory issues, communication issues, coordination problems and shutdowns are still going to severely affect me in daily life
How many autistic people have heard this phrase or some variation of it before?:
"You've never had any issues with this thing before, why do you suddenly need accommodations for it now?"
I feel like toxic autism positivity is a thing. I'm glad I'm autistic, but saying all the issues we face are because society isn't built for us doesn't help. True, society isn't built for us, but I'm still gonna have meltdowns and sensory issues no matter what society we're in
"Why are you so quiet?" is considered an okay thing to say despite the fact that asking "Why are you so loud?" would be considered rude.
Why is one okay to say when the other isn't?
If you're thinking of NOT telling your kid they're autistic, think of this:
Imagine you'd never heard of having a cold. Even if you'd never heard of it, you're still gonna see the signs. Problem is, without knowing what it is, you're just gonna be wondering what's wrong with you
People: Autism is such a mystery.
Autistic Person: Well I'm autistic, let me help y....
People: Obviously you're faking for attention! I know someone with autism and you're nothing like them!
Autistic Person: I'm autistic.
People: You don't need to make it your entire personality! You're probably faking it for attention, or it's mild if you do have it!
Autistic Person: Actually it does cause me some issues....
Person: You're using the autism card to be a victim!!
Parents, if your kid gets diagnosed as autistic, don't hide it from them. You may be worried about how they'll react, but chances are they already know there's something different about them anyway
Imagine being made to act as a certain character your whole life because every time you try and do anything that comes natural to you, people tell you it's wrong or weird. Sounds exhausting, right?
That's basically what autistic masking is in a nutshell
To the people saying "you're just saying this because you don't like her," that's not the case.
True, I don't like her, but I'm not gonna stop people from enjoying her work if it makes them happy. I never liked Harry Potter but I can definitely see the appeal
"Adolescents with ASD are more likely to face rejection and be bullied by their peers as a result of their social awkwardness"?
No
How about we change that to "Autistics are more likely to be bullied due to others being intolerant towards difference?"
To other autistic people, have you ever had moments where someone was flirting with you and you didn't realise until much later after missing all the hints?
Tip - If you’re gonna try and teach an autistic person “social skills”, don’t use a real situation they were in as an example and point out everything you think they did wrong. People tried that on me, just made me more insecure and socially anxious
I hate the idea that having nothing planned/doing nothing automatically means you should be available when someone wants you to do something. You shouldn't have to have a reason when declining something, sometimes "I just need time to myself" should be a valid reason in itself
Don't judge an autistic person for having a meltdown or shutdown over "something small", chances are that was just the tipping point amongst much bigger things
(And even if it was really just over something you perceive as "small", that's still not a reason to judge)
I hate autistic sensory overload. I wish people understood it's more than just mere discomfort, it's an awful sensation that can at worst affect the whole body
Sometimes I wonder how neurotypical people are able to tolerate busy crowded areas. Like, you apparently just filter out the stuff you don't need to focus on? How??
There's some neurotypical people that seem to think some autistics have meltdowns because "we can't control ourselves", but I'd argue that's not the case. In many ways, we're forced to "control" ourselves even more, and a meltdown is when our brains just can't take it anymore
To other autistic people, what's something neurotypical people can supposedly do tharlt you just can't comprehend?
For me, it's the fact they can apparently filter out unnecessary information in busy places. I must know the secret on how to do that!
When you tell someone you're autistic....
Neurotypicals: Really?? But you don't look autistic!
Other Autistics: Yeah I'd known you were autistic for ages.
If someone speaks to someone clearly wearing headphones, why is it considered rude not to answer when it's objectively ruder to try to speak to someone who clearly doesn't want to talk at that moment?
Curious to know, have any other autistic people ever got so invested and into a special interest that it became the main thing (if not the only thing) most people knew them for?
In my case I tended to be seen as the person who loved SpongeBob SquarePants
Do neurotypical people just have this natural ability to be able to speak to others without having to rely on a mental script that took years of practicing to learn?