Wife, mama, ex-corp-exec-turned-philanthropist. Always missing Japan. Living my best life w/my family, film, fashion, travel. Nick Cave is my therapist. NO DMs!
Why can’t I get it through my husband’s head that sneaking up behind me - especially in the dark - is extremely retraumatizing?
I cannot be the only woman who feels this way, right? 😡
Any zoomer who thinks right pic is above average attractive doesn't understand that in the 90s, a "7" looked like left pic.
"Above average" meant something else back then. There'd be like ten girls
as or more beautiful than Connelly working at every chain restaurant.
I’m showering for work when 9 y/o busts in on me.
Me: “Excuse me!”
9 y/o: “I’m late for school and I have to brush my teeth. Just stay in the shower. I don’t want to see anything that will ruin my childhood.”
☠️
Day 60 since cutting alcohol!
No corned beef and Guinness for me this St. Patty’s Day, but I do get to enjoy better sleep + an almost 10 lb weight loss since January. 🥳☘️
My boss shut down the office for the next three days. All employees are being fully paid. So we can prep our houses, evacuate if necessary, and look after ourselves and our families.
This is how companies make their employees feel valued. ❤️🙏
Eight months ago today I had my last glass of wine.
Alcohol just no longer serves me. If I’m honest, it never really did. It didn’t douse my trauma. It fueled it.
Eight months. 💖
Day 25 of no alcohol.
I had a hell of a day at the office, it’s Friday, and I’m headed to a party.
And I am NOT gonna crack and have a glass of wine.
I’m going to see day 26.
It’s staggering to me how many ppl cited mental health treatment as life-saving in this thread. It’s so important, so common, and often treatable, we really need to destigmatize the conversation around mental health. It’s real and it matters. 💖
With a solar eclipse upon us again, why is no one rewatching the greatest eclipse movie ever of all time?
You know, the one with the most awful ‘80s score (that almost ruins the film) and the most beautiful couple and the most romantic storyline?
Ladyhawke 😍🌒
My beautiful, 91 y/o grandmother passed away this morning.
I loved her so much, and she gave me a steadfast love that I desperately needed, especially when I was young.
It was time for her to go, and I knew it was coming, but my heart aches just the same. I hope we meet again.
Real talk.
I’m feeling a lot of stress + anxiety today.
65 days ago I would have come home from work and had a glass of wine.
That’s no longer my habit. This is good, and I’m not going to crack.
It’s just hard.
(Thanks for letting me whine/not wine.)
Today I resigned my position of 17+ years (!) for a new opportunity.
It’s bittersweet. I love my boss + the company, but I have the chance to do something different + I couldn’t refuse the compensation.
So many feelings!
There is literally not a woman alive who hasn’t been sexually harassed, assaulted, or worse.
Not. One.
And men wonder why we don’t “smile” more, aren’t “friendly”, and “can’t take a compliment.”
Gene Hackman is NOT DEAD.
He’s trending because he was spotted at a gas station wearing the same clothes he was seen wearing a week before (FFS, don’t we all?)
He’s a living legend and a national treasure, leave the man alone, damn.
Testing, 123 ($8.00):
If you can see me, (un-“verified” peasant that I am), please say hello. I want to see if Lord Muskrat is punishing me for refusing to pay tribute to his highness.
120 days since I gave up my wine.
This week, struggling with grief, has been the hardest. I want a glass of wine because I don’t want to feel feelings.
Feelings suck.
But I’m accountable to you people, so I’m holding on.
@Emerson_B_Rose
I feel the same way. My husband gets all fired up about something and even though it’s not directed at me and I know he wouldn’t ever hurt me, it still upsets me.
Welcomed home by my wonderful husband with cake and Pellegrino.
Happy 1 year of
#soberlife
!
This community has been so supportive. I love you and I thank you. 🙏❤️
A well-known member of the writing community accepted my money, my sympathy, and my time via the DMs when he was down and out.
Then he unfollowed me and ghosted me when I reached out to ask what happened.
He’s alive and well and tweeting away.
Fellow soft-hearted folks beware.
In case you wanna know why I try to lift everyone up, it’s because I was bullied mercilessly as a kid and never belonged to anyone anywhere. Ever.
Now I belong to me and I want everyone else to avoid that pain.❤️
I got unfollowed by a Christian for saying “fuck.”
I wonder if Jesus would unfriend me for such an offense? Personally, I think Jesus would be far more offended by bigotry, exclusion, and other evangelical “values.”
Yesterday’s kerfuffle reminds me of a time I said “fuck” in front of a guy who then tried to embarrass me in front of a group of people.
“What do you think men think when they hear you say that?”
Me: “Well, when I say it in front of a man, I’ll let you know.”
Well, this went bigger than I anticipated. I can’t keep up with the comments and that’s a good thing. I’m glad we’re having an important conversation that helps people both learn and know they aren’t alone.💗
I work in corporate/law and when my boss saw that I was on the cover of the newspaper for marching + protesting Roe v. Wade being overturned, do you know what his reaction was?
He was proud.
🥰
To the Republican conservative “Christians” screaming at me about “children’s safety” when I defend trans people:
YOUR LOVE OF GUN CULTURE KILLED THOSE KIDS IN NASHVILLE.
Shame on you and the blood on your hands.
I’ve never shared this publicly. In fact I called my mother this morning to tell her so she wouldn’t learn of it via Twitter.
I got pregnant at 18. I was 3,000 miles away from my family.
I had an abortion. It wasn’t what I wanted but I felt was the right decision at the time.
True story:
Many years ago, a handsome young man sat down next to me at a coffee shop. I had the distinct feeling that I recognized him from somewhere.
“Have we met?” I asked.
“No,” he replied abruptly, barely glancing at me.
21 years later we got married. 🙃
Second interview late this morning with the nonprofit. It’s an almost 38% pay cut from my last gig, but far more meaningful work.
Please tell me I’m not an idiot for pursuing this.
Yesterday I complimented a staff member on her great presentation to management.
Today she told me that she went home afterwards + told her husband it was the first time anyone had complimented her at work for a job well done in 3 years.
Kindness is free, folks, and it matters.
Guess who has already won the Super Bowl?
It’s the NFL, that’s who.
And they have Taylor Swift to thank.
Millions of people who otherwise couldn’t give a flying f*ck are tuning in because of this woman.
Cry harder, manbaby snowflakes. 💅🏻🤣
Fancy work function tonight and I’ve decided I’m still not drinking (Day 67).
Upside: no alcohol-induced embarrassment in front of colleagues/bosses.
Downside: facing an entire evening of office folks while stone-cold sober.😬
You guys have seen a number of random internet strangers being mean to me lately.
I’ve seen it happen to you, too.
It happens to all of us in real life as well.
But the vast majority of people are good + kind. And cruel people can wallow in their ugly loneliness.
Love wins.💖
Good morning, my friends! Had a great time at my brother’s birthday party last night. 20+ people enjoying dinner and drinks and I was perfectly happy with my Pellegrino mineral water.
Happy to be here at day 26 with no alcohol 😎
I apologize for this mom brag, but my neighbor is seriously ill. After the storm had passed, my 12 y/o cleaned up the debris from our neighbor’s yard as well as our own. 😭
I have a lot to say about current events on a personal level but I can’t form the words just yet.
Anyone else feel like they don’t recognize their country or their countrymen anymore?
Our dog Wally died suddenly 2 days ago.
Ross said it all in his thread.
We’re heartbroken and honestly, more than a little traumatized at how sudden and unexpected it was.
🐶💔
Wednesday evening my boy left us.
He got up from his spot near the back door, walked out onto the lawn, laid down, and never got up. Within the span of 5 minutes between when he got up & moments after Jenny, and then I, noticed something was wrong & got to him he was gone. 1)
91 days dry today.
Stumbled upon this old photo and I feel nostalgic for the IDGAF I lived by back then, and also sad that this was how I decompressed.
@ask_aubry
I feel sorry for everyone in this story. For the special needs son, for the pregnant daughter who wants to share this special experience with her mother, and for mom who obviously has no time to herself.
Self pity is gross but here we are. Yesterday’s outcome is triggering a lotta nasty shit. Like, my whole life I have NEVER been anyone’s first choice.
I’ve never been enough for anyone. And no amount of therapy or self-improvement effort has or ever will change that. This sucks.
Sure, sex is great, but have you ever decided that you’re just NOT going to make dinner at the end of a long day and the fam can fend for themselves? 💅🏻
It’s been a hell of a last 2 weeks.
I’ve got a stressful couple of weeks ahead.
So today, no pressure washing, no extra chores, no getting shit done.
I’m going to read, puzzle, nap, bubble bath, and veg with my husband and it’s going to be a damn oasis.
Can I get an amen?