My Mom also shared his writings (he loved to write) with her friend, a social worker (my mom was a school nurse and she worked with the said social worker). I lived in fear that he wouldn't live to see 18. 8/x

But he did! He turned 18 and he came and lived with us. His parents only allowed him to keep the clothes on his back. They came to our house and called him every name under the sun and my mom stood outside and said "you can't hurt him anymore, I will not allow it" 9/x

He blossomed while living with us. My parents and the aforementioned social worker took him shopping, made sure he had everything he needed for school and he became like my brother 10/x

I remember his excitement after his first date with another boy. I remember how excited he was to be able to dress the way he wanted. I remember how he came into my bedroom EVERY MORNING WITHOUT KNOCKING to ask me if he looked good in his outfits. 11/x

His joy and comfort living as his authentic self is a core memory of mine. The store is longer but the tl;dr is he went to an Ivy, and is an immunologist literally working on curing cancer. He is my brother and best friend. I would move mountains for him. 12/x

There are kids like him right now across the US who are SCARED with the new legislation passing. If they thought they were safe they no longer think that. One of my mentee's shared that they feel like no one wants them to live. I DO. Don't you? 13/x

There is a LOT of anti-queer legislation being passed at the state level right now. FIGHT IT. Queer kids need to feel safe. They deserve to feel safe. DO SOMETHING. 14/x

Call your legislators at all levels. Encourage the passage of FEDERAL protection of the LGBTQIA+ community. Queer lives matter. Also, be a safe adult. Be like my mom. Every kid and every person deserves to feel safe.

I would also be remiss to not mention my Dad’s rocksteady support of my bff. My Dad is an engineer’s engineer and can be a bit rough around the edges but has a heart of gold. He fully supported all of this. He also played bass and my friend played guitar and they would jam.

Him and my friend would watch The Simpsons together while my friend did Calc. He acted like my friend was always there. Like he had always existed as a member of our family. Rock steady. Be rock steady for the LGBTQIA+ folks in your life. Show up. Vote. Call.

If you’re reading this and you have other organizations you want to encourage folks to give to that will positively impact the LGBTQIA+ community please drop them here. (This includes gofundmes for gender affirming surgery, for folks experiencing financial difficulties, et al)

A few more things! 1)This story is about a man I know and love. He’s a real person and his whole story is not mine to tell, nor will I. His bravery and the way he has walked through the fire of adversity is breathtaking.

2) Centering the lived experience of the LGBTQIA+ community is CRITICAL. 3) There has been an overwhelming positive response to this twitter thread. Thank you all. Remember, you are loved. It gets better. In solidarity always, Rhian

Very last thing I spoke with my friend and told him how big this has gotten. I won’t speak for him, but to say this: He asks that you donate to @theuwcofficial Here is how:

@rhiankatie @TrevorProject @LALGBTCenter @AliForneyCenter @TransEquality @sageusa @PointFoundation @HRC Your parents are wonderful people, as are you.

@rhiankatie @TrevorProject @LALGBTCenter @AliForneyCenter @TransEquality @sageusa @PointFoundation @HRC Also @GLSEN my son’s homophobic middle school principal banned their Day of a Silence event the morning of because of a single parent complaint. And this is NY state, lest someone think it was in GOP land .

@rhiankatie @TrevorProject @LALGBTCenter @AliForneyCenter @TransEquality @sageusa @PointFoundation @HRC It is threads like this that help me believe that there are more of us good people than them. Thank you for sharing. Thank you for caring and thank you for saving this great soul.

@rhiankatie @TrevorProject @LALGBTCenter @AliForneyCenter @TransEquality @sageusa @PointFoundation @HRC Love this thread💕

@rhiankatie @TrevorProject @LALGBTCenter @AliForneyCenter @TransEquality @sageusa @PointFoundation @HRC Spread this thesis about the role of school in supporting queer children: #ResallyingQids #Resilience

@rhiankatie @TrevorProject @LALGBTCenter @AliForneyCenter @TransEquality @sageusa @PointFoundation @HRC The @transfilmcenter comes to mind if you want to uplift trans and queer media. Storytelling plays a huge part in shaping our world, and the earlier we can support media artists in their journey, the sooner we can get stories that leave their mark and start careers.