I’m sorry some of y’all had shitty fathers, truly. But goddamn if there aren’t 364 other days a year to shit all over them and I’ll join right in. But can we please take a day to recognize all the dads out there trying their best and doing the damned thing even if yours didn’t?
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@elchefe
Father's day is not on the same day everywhere in the world.
How many of them should we observe in the honor of all the fathers who are doing so much better than ours ever was?
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@AnLifetime
If it’s not Father’s Day where you are, like, why not just do this when it’s Father’s Day where you are?
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@elchefe
Being a Dad means you love unconditionally, and I'm gonna celebrate that with you! We'll never be able to fix all the issues we had/have with the crap dad's out there if we don't elevate the good ones as an example for them to see.
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@elchefe
And I'm cool with all the single moms wanting to be celebrated today too. As I told my cousin, there's enough Father's Day to go around for everyone that wants a slice to get one. The shitting on Father's Day itself and those who chose to celebrate is a bummer though.
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@elchefe
I get it and do think dads that manage to move beyond the stereotypes deserve recognition, and also want to acknowledge that for some it’s way more than shitty dad … it’s trauma.
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@elchefe
Totally respect where this is coming from but you’re asking people to be rational about something that’s hard to be rational about. A tough day for me but I’ve enjoyed everyone else’s positive comments
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@elchefe
I'm a member of the "I feel fucked up about my shitty dad" club, a member of the "I recognize I still loved him and he did some cool and positive things too and he loved me" club, and the "white tech guy" club -
I see you! I know there are good dads and I think you are one.
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@elchefe
I really appreciate this. It’s been a tough Father’s Day for this dad who tries to do right by his kids, and the overwhelming negative sentiment on everything from news to Twitter today really makes things worse. Good on ya.
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@elchefe
I mean....I kinda get it BUT...
Why are you trying to police how people process their pain if it has nothing to do with you? If you or the guys you know are great fathers, why not celebrate that and offer compassion and space to those who aren't in the same space?
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