@echo_aster @t4t_cyborg This doesn't work either, lol.

@echo_aster I remember reading an article/study that found that conservatives (in the US) make choices based on "patriotism" and safety, while liberals tend to use justice and equality (iirc) So, form your arguments that way - even if you think it's kinda bs

@echo_aster Explaining an online argument about cultural appropriation to my grandmother a while back, and it clicked for her when she framed it as someone thinking something was "in bad taste."

@echo_aster a big part of the propaganda that targets older generations is lifting words people are using and redefining them before you can. It's a code-based language they adopt that is designed to make it harder to communicate with them.

@echo_aster @tragic_endings_ This advice could actually be applied even more generically: Stop inventing new words just for the sake of it. They do not help! They just end up being a way to signal who's "in" i your little social elite bubble. And you don't need them to tell people to be nice to others.

@echo_aster @art_twink This is something one can also learn organically by going outside and talking to normal people (based on my personal experience)

@echo_aster My working title for a presentation I'm giving this spring to nursing students is "How to Not Be a Dick to Trans Patients."

@echo_aster For a gentler version, it's raised eyebrows and a surprised, "Oh, that's kinda rude."

@echo_aster oh! i did this recently. she actually listened when i told her it isn’t nice to comment on other people’s bodies. i think being perceived as nice is important to her. huh. i will try to remember this strategy

@echo_aster I very calmly say well that was a shitty thing to say or that was a shitty comment…. And nothing else…. If they ask what I mean by that I explain why what they said was shitty… but most of the time it isn’t needed…. The fact that someone has called them on it is enough

@echo_aster “That’s not a very Christian thing to say” is my personal fav

@echo_aster So many of them have been trained to disrespect any "social justice-y" language and go fight mode over conservative trigger words. But if you explain it while carefully avoiding those, they usually get it. Gentle parent the boomers into being descent.

@echo_aster Telling my conservative stoner friend "your like, ruining the vibes man"

@echo_aster Hit em with the classic "It's rude"

@echo_aster I always use someone else as an example. "Can you believe Margaret said xxx? No one uses that term anymore, it's so outdated and hurtful." An indirect attack can be effective.

@echo_aster My go-to is "I'm surprised to hear you say that, you're usually so respectful and open-minded"

@echo_aster I figured out with my grandma that if I equate something with something she likes, she understands it. “Muslim women choose to wear hijabs like Catholic women choose to wear ankle length dresses, it’s a respect and modesty thing” and suddenly she stops complaining about hijabs.

@echo_aster Plain language does wonders. Its something I had to teach myself when I first started working in pharmacy because detailed explanations would either get tuned out or confuse some folks.