I'd be lying if I said there wasn't an intrusive thought in my brain that a lot of people wouldn't hang around me if I didn't go out of my way to host parties and organize stuff like meets....Its probably not true, but anxiety is a bitch
@TokensArcade
Yeah I get the feeling. Itβs kinda like lacking object permanence but for affection and positive relationships. Itβs just a general thing you have to deal with and learn to be able to remind yourself people like and care about you
@ItsAllWaysPour1
Lacking object permanence but for affection and positive relationships..... I've never heard it put that way but that actually makes a lot of sense...
@TokensArcade
As part of my ADHD, I experience intrusive thoughts like that too! It is called "Rejection-Sensitive Dysphoria" (RSD).
You are loved, and people want to spend time with you, Tokens! β€οΈ I promise you are just being manipulated by your own mind.
@PudgyTrashKing
You know I've heard this term actually quite a lot but never really looked into it. Maybe I should talk to my therapist about it. Thank you for telling me this.
@TokensArcade
Well, it raises the question, do you do it for others or, for yourself? Your gut is probably correct, but if it makes you fulfilled in and of itself, then it doesn't matter either way.
@OhNoitsNKS
I do love small/private room parties and I first started doing it myself because there was one MFF where the person who did it previously couldn't do it that year, So on the spot I took the reins for it to happen again. I enjoy it! but also might want a break for a con or two
@TokensArcade
Its half true but maybe not in the way you think.
Some people are only there for themselves or what they can get out of you, but that doesn't mean there is not real people too.
You gotta work out who is who and which ones are worth putting the time into.
@TokensArcade
I low-key feel this on the opposite end of the spectrum. I donβt organize things or make plans and as a result I tend to be kind of a free agent in terms of socializing, and that Iβm not really -wanted- anywhere, that, at best, Iβm just kind of accepted because Iβm a warm body.
@TokensArcade
Idk bro that green vs blue drink was kinda bangin and had I realized you were the same guy who reviewed those old computers (camadoreiirc) with that voice I would've raved about it harder. Thank you again for hosting because you're cooler than you know ^w^
-a fellow host
@TokensArcade
You can go to all my parties if I can rematch the bird gang in furry feud (I actually donβt host parties yet but I understand the feeling).
@TokensArcade
I only started really networking with tons of people after I founded a convention, so I get this anxiety
You know at least this yote likes you for you, first and foremost!
@TokensArcade
Dude, I personally would just like to hang out with you and play silly games and what not over parties.
You seem like you'd be tons of fun to just hang with and be goofballs β€οΈ
@TokensArcade
Ngl, if you were local id be poking you to hang out lots π₯Ί I think you're really awesome and have really cool and fun interests I'd love to indulge with you π