It’s unkind and victim shaming. It trivialises their pain and mocks them for desiring community which is actually what the church offers. If it wasn’t for that, people can just have their personal relationships with God and keep it moving.

And the most annoying part of all of this is that with the constant victim shaming, the church doesn’t take responsibility because more focus is placed on disregarding the hurt and spiritual abuse the victim faced, then addressing the actual issue and ensuring justice is served.

If more people got justice for the harm done to them in and by the church, maybe they won’t leave. Maybe the excuse of the church being made up of flawed humans would make sense, because in a world with flawed humans, there are still consequences for harming others.

@MsNwangwa And then there is the constant fear mongering that God would punish you for speaking against a man of God or a leader who hurt you.

@ephraimorji96 Thissss. It’s really hurtful seeing people weaponise spirituality again others. Or the more common one of pastors saying that even when a pastor is wrong, you shouldn’t call them out because of honor.

@MsNwangwa You see that "thing where the church BURNS and BREAKS you" I'm a victim broooooo. Na me know Wetin my eye don see😭

@MsNwangwa This thing you said is very correct, what my eyes has seen because of church, but thank God for Church who have kind people and leaders